Why can’t I celebrate my baby?

Hey wonderful people! I’m 14 weeks pregnant after a miscarriage at 7 weeks in October last year. Finding out I was pregnant left me in a whirlwind of emotions, mostly anxious that I would go through another miscarriage. I’ve had two miscarriages already, so getting to 14 weeks with what’s been confirmed through two scans as a viable pregnancy has been a massive milestone. I know I’m happy, and my partner is elated. But I’m still living in fear that something bad will happen and my body will let my baby down. Has anyone experienced this feeling of dread before? That despite the reassurance of scans, you’re still worried to celebrate the pregnancy incase it fails like last time? I would love to hear your input 🫶🏻 Ps I’m so sorry if this triggers anyone x

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Hi - 26 weeks with my 5th pregnancy. I’ve experienced three MCs and one loss at a later stage, no LC, so trust me when I say I completely relate. PAL is HARD. There’s a lot of anxiety tied to every little sensation you feel. History has jeopardized the trust we have in our bodies, so of course it’s difficult to feel this baby is 100% safe. We’ve learned that despite all the care we put into keeping our baby safe, we only have so much control. I try to take it day to day and enjoy the moment and time I have with my baby. LOTS of mindfulness comes into play. I would also recommend looking into support groups. I’m doing a 6-week virtual support group for PAL starting in May, and I’m looking forward to listening and sharing with others who are going through the same thing. Hugs to you. It takes effort, but try to focus on loving and being a mother to this baby. 💜

I had a MC back in October and even though I’m currently 19 weeks and everything’s currently okay, I feel similarly! I didn’t tell anyone (outside family) until about 16 weeks and I’ve still not bought a thing. I think it’s all totally normal as there’s an understandable level of anxiety and fear. I’m very lucky that my hospital has a designated mental health midwife who’s been amazing in supporting me and easing those anxieties, so maybe see if there’s an option there for you at yours? But one of the things she said to me is that it’s totally normal to feel this was and just try for small steps and when you manage those things, take the win! They are little steps but over time you’ll realise how far you’ve come! Hope everything goes well for you and this baby! ♥️

I share a very similar story and feelings with you! MC last fall and now 15 weeks pregnant. We're over the moon but there's still this feeling of waiting for the ball to drop... Thinking at every scan or check up we won't hear the babies heart beat this time etc. Glad we can grow this community and be there for each other.

@Jess It’s our time! Sending positive thoughts your way x

@Regina thankyou so much x best of luck with your pregnancy x

@Charley my midwife mentioned the mental health support available so I will definitely mention it next appt so they’ll hopefully refer me to a case worker for some support in getting through PAL anxiety. Thankyou for your useful insight best of luck ✨