Toddler out of control

My 3.5 year old is really out of control lately. It’s to the point where I can’t be around him because it’s just making me cry. Something so simple as me putting away his coloring pages caused him to flip out. And I asked first are you done playing with this before I put it away and he said yes. I put them away and he went nuts. We were going to my mom’s as we do almost every Friday and he asked to bring some books. I said okay let’s pick some…. He ended up crying about which books to bring. And not just crying having a full mental breakdown about it. I have literally tried everything with him. I feel so emotionally drained. I feel defeated and like I must have failed somewhere because idk who this kid is. Idk how to interact with him or what to do because everything sets him off. Especially anything with the slightest decision. And so I eliminate the decision and that doesn’t make a difference it will be something else. I have tried being super supportive and validating and very stern and rigid. And everything in between. I pray to God that he just being him some peace in heart and allows him to be happy and calm. I pray all the time for him to be okay. He’s not. My next step is his doctor (I’m not about western medicine at all) but I feel so defeated. Idk what to do.

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Mine is like that as well. He’s pretty chill when we’re outside. I try to keeps pretty busy with him to pass the time.

Sorry you’re going through this. You’re doing great by trying different approaches to find something that works for you and your little one. My son has been having huge meltdowns recently too… I think I’ve finally figured out that it is tied to a growth spurt. He’s eating a ton and growing! But I’ve also learned that he is requiring extra rest as a result. We had eliminated naps, but I’m finding that he needs them again. When he is on the verge of a meltdown (over completely irrational things) that’s my sign he needs a nap or an early bedtime. Sometimes he melts down over having to go to sleep but eventually does and wakes up better. This may not be what’s going on with your little one but I thought I would share. Hang in there!

My son had been acting up as well over small things. Ive learned to just walk away and let him come to me when he is calm. I was overreacting myself at his overreaction and it was causing him to have bigger outbursts so now I talk calmly and get to his level and if that doesn’t work I walk away until he is calm. Its super hard but trying different approaches until one works is key!

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