would you have your future SIL as a bridesmaid?
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I had my two sisters and my best friend as bridesmaids and my nieces as flower girls (my sister in law's girls). Definitely up to you who you have!
I didn't have any of my in laws in my wedding party, nobody said it was odd but then his family never liked me.
@Elizabeth i barely speak to my boyfriends sister now though. we have never even had a one to one conversation. she sent me nasty messages when we set postpartum boundaries and never even apologised for it so it just doesn’t make sense to include her as a bridesmaid. were you close with your brothers wife before the wedding? i feel like if we were close it would be different
@Colby thats the deal then 😂 i get to choose one of my boyfriends grooms men then lmao
I had 2 of my SIL as bridesmaid. If I could go back I’d change it. I did it mostly because I felt like I had to since my s/o had two of my brothers as groomsmen (tbf they were close friends). But I’m not close to either of my SIL, there’s just some family drama on both sides of our family lol
😂 absolutely it goes both ways. But it’s also 100% ok to not have them. My SILs are lovely so I was happy to include them.
I asked my sil to be bridesmaid mainly as I wanted her to feel involved in the wedding and it felt like the right thing to do. She had been bridesmaid at my bil wedding as well.
Totally up to you!
I think it’s a cultural thing. I did not have my sils as bridesmaids and my friend thought that was so weird. I’m thankful I didn’t have them as we haven’t grown closer since the wedding. You should only have who you want in your party. Don’t have her unless you want her. Don’t give in to mil persisting.
My husband is an only child so didn't have this issue. However, I didn't have my brother's partner as a bridesmaid and I wouldn't expect to be one of hers if they get married, as we're not really close due to living so far apart and haven't really spent much time together. Personally I think it's down to the bride who she has as MOH or bridesmaids not anyone else. To keep the peace, you could ask SIL to do a reading so she's still included.
I invited my SIL to be a bridesmaid just trying to be nice. She said no because she felt uncomfortable around me and my friends because she didn't care to know any of us. You chose who you want.
If I liked her, sure. If I didn't like her or really know her then I wouldn't. My SIL sucks big time so that's a big nope for me. Lol
I love my SIL but I didn’t have her as a bridesmaid. Should I have? I don’t know, sometimes I regret not having her in it but then again I wasn’t in her wedding. There’s not really a right or wrong answer here in my opinion!
I have 2 brothers, I was bridesmaid at one of their weddings but not the other and I have never resented or not liked my SIL for not asking me, it was her day therefore her decision. I had my sister as my Maid of Honor/Bridesmaid for my wedding but didn't have any of my SIL's (partner's sister or the wife of either of my brother's).
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No ! I’m engaged & not having my husbands sisters as bridesmaids. My wedding my choice ! 🙌🏼
It’s certainly not an obligation by any means especially if you aren’t close. I never had a wedding, but my BIL just got married and his wife only had her best friends as bridesmaids and didn’t ask his sisters. Also my brother’s new wife didn’t ask me or my sisters to be bridesmaids either.
I'm not interested in having my SIL as a bridesmade, I'm not even sure I want my own sister as one. Have whoever you want up there with you!
No not at all, I wouldn’t have my sister in law as my bridesmaid either 😂😭 it shouldn’t be expected, some traditions and cultures are different but for me I don’t think it should be expected, it’s your day not your mother in laws or sister in laws xxx
I think it all depends on the family relationship to be honest. Your partners sister should really be included in the wedding party just like I'd imagine your brother (if you have one) would also like to be included. But if your partner isn't close to his sister then maybe not I guess. I was bridesmaid at my brother's wedding, despite not really being close to his wife. It was still lovely. Another brother I was asked, but declined because I really didn't get on with his wife (they're now divorced anyway!)
It’s up to you honestly I had my husband’s cousins in it because he had more brothers and friends than I have as friends. Plus he made my bro a groomsman too. It’s up to you and ask if she’d even be comfortable with that
I had my soon to be SIL as a bridesmaid but that’s only because we became really close friends! I wouldn’t have done it if we weren’t close. The bride chooses her bridesmaids that’s it, they are there to help the bride. Ushers I would argue could be from both sides
I just had my sisters as my bridesmaids. No one said anything about not also having my 2 SIL’s. I think it would have been awkward to have them as we don’t speak other than family occasions. At the end of the day it’s your choice who you want and no one can force you to have people just because they’re family 😊
probably a cultural thing. in japanese weddings we don’t even have a bridal party/team or groomsen lol. but if i wanted to get married the american way id have only my friends as bridesmaids etc
@Charlotte my boyfriend and his sister are closeish but seeing how close i am to my own sisters i dont think theyre super close. i dont have a brother but i dont think my boyfriend would even have his own brother as a best man to be honest!
@Katrina totally agree! bridesmaids are there for the bride!
@Georgia thats exactly how i feel. i barely speak to her and she doesnt know any of my sisters. my boyfriends family dont really make an effort to get to know my family it would feel well awkward dress shopping!
Idk, I would have my SIL, but we’re cool. Idk if she would do the same for me and if she didn’t I’d still be okay with that too. I would hope she involved me, but if she didn’t I wouldnt regret having her in mine. I even will go as for to say I would love it if my MIL is involved in my wedding as much as my mom is. We didn’t have a great relationship in the beginning but we’re growing and I feel like that is a way for us to work on our kinks. But only if she wants to. I say all this to say, it can be a way to get closer but ultimately it’s up to you
@LaRay agree with MIL being just as involved as my mum! me and my MIL havent always seen eye to eye (hence why im on this group in the first place 😅) but she is my partners mum just the same as my mum is my mum. anyone that pushes out the MIL from their wedding is just cruel (unless them and their partner have cut contact with her or within good reason!!)
Erm, no? But we will only have a small do and my bridesmaids will be my 2 daughters.
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I’m already married (eloped) but really don’t plan on having any wedding parties when we plan our other wedding in the future (10 years from now or so). My husband only has 1 sister and we have an okay relationship.
No way, she’d be around me all morning. If you’re not close, there’s no need. It’s your day, put you first, and she’d probably be happy not to be asked if you’re not close!
My sil didn’t have me as a bridesmaid and vice versa had her daughter whose week or so older than mine as a Honary flower girl (matching dress to my daughter) but that was it I didn’t even have my sister as a bridesmaid just my friend and my niece
I had my husbands sisters and my sisters and 2 friends 😂 but I wanted my brother as a groomsman so fairs fair. We had 6 groomsmen and 6 bridesmaids as a result lol