4m old terribly sleeper

I want to give up… My child has been in this potential sleep regression for 3 weeks now and it means he wakes every 45min - 1hr at night. It can take me 2 hours to put him down next to me in bed with his head leaning on my arm. I am barely sleeping, probably get 4 hours broken sleep between 8pm-8am. I am stuck in this room trying to keep him asleep. I am tired, so fed up, so exhausted. I don’t feel like myself. My arms are so sore from having his head on it all night every night!? If I’m lucky I can slide my arm out a few times during the night but by the time it gets to 2am I’m exhausted and cba to keep trying and let him sleep on on my arm. There is no safe sleeping here cos I can’t!! If I keep trying to put him down flat he will just wake up and I honestly won’t be able to function with no sleep He was a colic baby and stopped around 3.5m and then this regression hit. I haven’t had a break since he’s been born! Even before regression he will only do max 2 hours which I would love right now?!. Is there something wrong with him? Do I need a sleep consultant? I’m even thinking of letting him cry to sleep cos I am going insane. Tonight I’m really struggling as it’s 1.15am and I’ve not slept yet.

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It's so difficult isn't it? I am lying here in the same position as you, arm under baby's head. She is 9 months! We haven't had more than 2 hours joint sleep since she was born. Fortunately my husband shares the nights with me (between bfs) holding her to sleep. It's really taken a toll on our relationship and is tough for our eldest child too. Ours is the same in the day, only contact naps. She had colic and reflux until 3.5 months and diagnosed with CMPA and eczema. We tried a sleep consultant at 6 months ....we found very little improvement as we already had good sleep practices in place and it was expensive. Not to say it wouldn't work for you though. The only thing I have for you is that when you think you are broken then you will find something deep inside that helps you keep going. I promise it won't always be like this. Unfortunately some babies need more help to sleep than others. It's nothing you are doing wrong and in fact you are doing an incredible job giving your baby what they need.

This is true…all babies are different and a lot of it does come down to temperament and sometimes even genetics. The 4 month sleep regression is tough…I do advise that once they aren’t of it setting some health sleep habits and independent sleep can be a game changer-it’s what I did with both of mine. There’s no wrong or right way to do sleep-only what works for you and what doesn’t. It doesn’t have to be this hard though and there are in room methods that can be used-it’s not all CIO! Also not all sleep consultants charge the earth-I am a nhs nurse and sleep consultant. Here to chat if you would like some help/advice!

@Sam thanks Sam reading your message really made me feel better. I have a toddler too so I know it’ll get easier eventually but in that moment it’s so hard. 💜

@Shan-SleepNurse thanks! I’m really am waiting for this 4m regression to pass and if it gets better or not! I will reach out if I need any help. 💜

I do also have lots of free info with regards to baby sleep/ 4 month regression on my social media pages. The gentle sleep nurse. IG and FB

Thanks I will follow !

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