Am I being unreasonable?

You aren’t being unreasonable at all!!! If people couldn’t be there for you in the pregnancy, why should they be there now!xx

How old is she? Is there a reason she doesn’t like you? Has she messaged her brother and asked how you all are doing ect? Some families don’t do that anyway. Mine don’t (both sides) as information is passed on through our parents and it’s only now my mil has gone they are trying to make more of an effort.

Yea it’s super annoying she wants to be a doting aunt or at least get pictures anyway but can’t even be civil to you .. er no… what did she think was going to happen. Like she doesn’t have to be your best friend just a decent human being. I don’t know if there is anyway to repair your relationship but I would say you need to get your husband on the same page. If she can’t be civil to you then she won’t be having a relationship with your child end of. If she wants to try then she need to apologise or make an effort with you… not the baby.

@Karen I’m 30 and she’s mid 40s. Apparently I blanked her at a family wedding or something but I don’t know for sure. She never told me just blocked me on fb and caused years worth of anxiety and drama. I would have apologised at the time if she’d said something because it wasn’t intentional but now she’s treated me like dirt for far too long. And my partner too. She never messages him to ask about baby and when she saw him when we were pregnant she refused to even acknowledge the baby and just talked about work etc.

@Kirsty I said if she just reached out and said let’s put it behind us then I could but she won’t. She won’t apologise or show any interest. His MIL is the one constantly pushing it and tbh i’m really resenting her for it because she’s only interest in what’s best for her.

Be direct with your mother in law about what happened and exactly what you said here. Your mother in law needs to prioritise her own relationship with you and stop pushing for anything else. Or tell your sister in law to make amends and then leave it be. Tbh I’d be telling them both I’ve just had a baby I’m tired and I don’t want no drama. Support me or get out of the way.

I was expecting her to be in her late teens or early twenties. Is she married with her own family? Just seems bizarre otherwise. Personally I might offer to meet somewhere on neutral grounds with the option to leave but I would let your oh communicate that you are a package and that you can’t have all this unnecessary drama moving forward and effort needs to be made on both side (ie hers). At the end of the day you don’t have to like each other but just be civil. But I’m biased as I’ve lived through enough family arguments and life really is that short.

I mean it’s weird that she didn’t want anything to do with the baby before and now does, I think you and your partner need to be on the same page, otherwise it’s just a mess.

If she wasn’t there when he was in utero she doesn’t need to be there when he’s ex utero.

Absolutely not, I’ve been in the same boat with my own brother that I’ve now just cut all ties with. Even if she’s supposedly family that doesn’t matter. If they don’t care about you or little one just simply don’t let them be part of yours or your little ones life. Your partner should understand, and if they don’t then that would then be a them problem.