Parts of this are motherhood but it seems like your mood is really low and you’re not enjoying things you usually would. You don’t need to suffer and it doesn’t need to be like that. I’d really advise reaching out to your GP. We all have moments (I’ve experienced the post partum rage too — it’s nuts!!) but if you’re feeling bad more than you’re feeling good it’s probably a sign something might be off. So is having to ask the question you asked — usually the “am I bad enough to need help” answer is yes. I really hope you’re feeling better soon and can enjoy things a bit more. Motherhood is bloody hard!
I’ve also had traumatic pregnancy, birth, severe pp depression and ptsd and was referred directly to the perinatal mental health team. They are much faster than GPs and your local NHS Trust should have a department too. Feel free to message me and I can share more details, but basically they saved my life! You’re not a bad mother because you love your daughter and care about her so much, and you’re trying your best! Please be kind to yourself ❤️ There is help out there, so please reach out and get the support you deserve.
I'm sorry to hear that you are having a tough time. There are parts of what you are experiencing that I think fall into the motherhood category with the hormonal changes etc, however it does sound like you are potentially depressed too. The lack of interest to do anything, lack of energy, lack of motivation to wash or make an effort etc sounds like depression. I think it would be worth trying to arrange an appointment with your GP just to talk through how you are feeling. They can then diagnose/ prescribed/ refer if necessary. I hope you feel better soon as this doesn't sound nice.