Gamer Husband

Play a game with him from time to time

My fiancé and I have a schedule. He usually games while I’m cooking dinner and then we will eat together after that we go our separate ways for our “me times” usually I take a bath, read a book, anything really and he’ll usually game.

I’m an only child so I enjoy alone time but he has to be in bed by a certain time which is usually midnight

My OH plays, gaming is important to him, he has a solid group of friends and they are like a little support network for each other. I used to play one game online with him and still do every now and then but just don’t have the time since having our LG. Sometimes it annoys me but he makes effort to spend time with me and our LG as much as he can and gaming only gets in the way of housework! It also means most nights he’s up really late playing and I’ve gone to bed but I enjoy having the bed to myself to stretch out for a bit before he comes up so there’s that!

hey that’s cool that you two have a schedule. as far as getting in the bed at a certain time that’s something you two agreed on?

I suggested exactly that.

I understand all too well how gaming can get in the way of housework. What do you do about it?

My husband and I have a similar set up to Andrea’s. He plays while I cook, bathe the kid, whatever really. Then we eat together and put the little down to bed together. He works super early and long schedules so he usually goes to bed soon after my daughter and then I get my me time.

my husband tries to play a lot during the day when i have our son, if i need help he’ll get off when the match is over, if i need him right then, he’ll get off right then.
if our son is eating, he’ll feed him while playing.
if our son is asleep or independently playing,
i’ll play the game with him.
If he shows any type of irritation for having to get off the game, i tell him he needs to get off completely for the day and wait until he puts our LO to sleep for the night.
it’s all about balance.

That was a non negotiable. I hate going to bed alone if he doesnt come to bed usually all hell breaks loose

We both game but he does it more than me but he's not a big tv person I am I also read books and I like to write scroll through tik Tok if your having issues him doing his part in being a parent or helping you with the house and not wanting to give you attention when your actively trying. It's great to have different hobbies and everything the thing for me is if it's affecting things, like intimacy chores being an active parent and his job we decided to make a date night/movie night where cuddle and talk about each other different and having a light hearted conversation

He balance his playtime on his game so well, I could care less. He’s very much present in every other area! It’s his down time and time to decompress and I love it for him. I also plan to play with soon.

Have the talk with him and tell him how you feel. If he still doesn’t change it and it comes before you then YES, let him have it cause that’s totally neglecting and not fair. You matter in the relationship as well.

My husband plays video games and I just watch him play like it's a fun interactive movie or TV series 😆 I get to tell him to "go pick up that flower/potion/treasure" or "health! Health!" when he gets hurt bad in a fight and might not notice. I also help him figure out puzzles in the games sometimes. Sometimes I make up back stories for the NPC's and he goes along with it. He picks specific games with interesting story lines for us to play together. The mindless shoot em up type games I leave him to play by himself 😅 I used to knit or crochet while he games so we could enjoy our hobbies in the same room. His gaming does not interfere with his parenting responsibilities.

My husband and I both game. But he also works 6 days a week, does bedtime, and helps around the house when I need it, and I’m a SAHM. We spend plenty of time together and since I have a handheld gaming pc, we can play in the same room while he has the tv. While he’s playing, you can pick up another hobby, or just ask that he cut his game time short so yall can do something. But with all the stressors of the world, it’s a must that we all have something that can bring a little peace. He’s home and he’s safe, that counts for a lot.

It's better he play game than out cheating ...

Give him time to play his game and When you need time with him, just stand naked infront of the game

My partner games but he never lets it get in the way of helping with the baby or cleanup. He checks in with me before going on and if he wants to play with his boys, he usually tries to do it once the baby & I are asleep. He still wakes up within 30-60 min of me in the morning.

It’s just about respect. Not about gaming. If your husband respects you and your time, he won’t let his hobby of gaming get in the way of being a good partner and father.

Well he has ADHD so it can be quite difficult to get him to do housework anyway but we body double, usually on a weekend when we’re both home, I’ll give our LO breakfast and then in front of him, I’ll start housework, and I mention all the things I have to do, he’ll join in and get one with a couple of things to help out! On the weekdays when it’s just a quick hoover or the dishwasher etc because we both work, I’ll just ask him to distract our LO while I just crack on