Am I being sensitive or is my sister-in-law rude?
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@Cassie he is asking me before saying yes and i do have a good enough relationship with the sister where she can include me. However, I feel like there’s a complete lack of respect for me at times.
Maybe ask your husband to te-direct her question to you next time, or he could start a text thread with both of you to loop you in? Or you could ask that he prepare the house for his own guests… I know that’s not the central issue but he should be helping with that!
I agree with Liz!!
That’s a good idea. Sometimes I feel as if my SIL and MIL exclude me from their requests because they know there’s a chance I’ll say no. Our home has turned into a hotel for his family. There’s somebody staying with us every couple of weeks and it’s becoming exhausting.
Yes, I can totally understand how you’re feeling you’ve been together long enough that they should feel comfortable including you in the plans if not reaching out to you directly. I would definitely sit them down when they come specially that they wanna stay in your house and drive your car? They can include you in the plans and let them know. Sit them down with your husband and tell them. It’s not just your husbands stuff. It’s not your husbands home your husbands car. It’s both of yours and they need to include you in asking to use things that belong to the both of you. Also, if it doesn’t change, going forward then do not allow them to use your home anymore. They can get an Airbnb or stay in a hotel there’s no reason to be disrespectful and want to use your things at the same time you know
I personally would talk to your husband about it first! Is he asking you before saying yes to her? Do you have any type of relationship with the sister? There’s a lot of factors here.