Not listening

my son is exactly the same ignores me constantly and then laughs when i tell him off i feel like im a really bad mum telling him off and having to shout but just does not listen

@Emma yes literally i feel like the worst mum in the world having to discipline when she doesnt listen but what else are you meant to do! I have read about positive reinforcement so I have a star jar I used for potty training that i think I’ll bring back out for good listening… i have literally been doing hearing tests with her incase shes actually losing her hearing… telling your child off is actually the worst part of parenting 😩

Yeah. I get eye rolled too!! My daughter is also in this “listen mummy.. I make you a deal” phase, cause my husband says it to her too. I stop and ask my daughter if she’s listening to me, she will literally tell me no. I then tell her okay, you come to me when you’re ready to listen to me nicely. Sometimes I turn everything off that it making any sound (other than my baby 😂) and she will stop and ask me why I did it. I tell her cause she’s not doing good listening.

Yess! My 3 year old is the same, and it gets particularly bad around 5:30/6 when it’s getting to bath/bed time! Shouting doesn’t work either and she laughs at me too 😂 x

Seems like it’s quite typical for this age! I read a quote - no one is busier than a toddler just before bedtime. I am finding the statement of what is happening and 2 appropriate options for her to choose very effective. Not 100% but pretty good. It’s bedtime now, do you want to walk or run up the stairs? It’s bath time, do you want bubbles or no bubbles? Yelling doesn’t help imo - it just reinforces the negative behaviour because that is getting them the attention. It’s so hard because they know how to push our buttons!

Ah yes! It’s such a cheeky age, some of the things they come out with. I sometimes get ‘calm down darling’ or yesterday it was ‘don’t worry about what I’m doing, worry about chopping’ (I was making dinner). They are little sponges!! I’ve been giving her choices ie if you get your PJs on we can read two stories before bed but if not I think you’ll need to go straight to bed with no stories. I’m currently juggling a newborn and toddler for the best part she’s been great but def after nursery the bedtime is a challenge at the moment because I think she’s had a long day and is tired.

My daughter doesn't listen until she wants something really winding me up

Yes, I often get ‘mummy I’m not talking to you’. I find bribes help 😂 (something nice to eat or I threaten no iPad for a week). She now often turns around and says ‘mummy I’ve been good today haven’t I? Can I have my iPad later’ 😂. Definitely turning into the parent I said I wouldn’t be 😂

@Lauren i wish bribes worked! When shes in a no listening mood i might as well be a piece of furniture

It’s so reassuring to hear that all these LOs are acting the same way. I taught him to say “no thank you” as a more polite way of responding to certain things but now he sort of shouts it at me (and others) if he is slightly inconvenienced in some way. It sounds so obnoxious! 🤣🙈

@Kate this made me lol 😂

@Alice 🤣 when our great ideas backfire

@Kate no thank you is better than the feral growl i am getting from my daughter so could be worse 😂