How to keep calm?!
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Thanks @Gaby how did you go about starting therapy. It’s something I’ve always been curious about but never known how to go about it 😩
I feel you, I'm sure PP rage is a thing! I've seen so many people talking about mental load and feeling like you're solely responsible for the household running. Second therapy - betterhelp is supposed to be amazing and a lot of YouTubers have discount codes for this. I received therapy years ago by going through my GP. I think also having an honest conversation to your partner about how you feel is important. You're obviously grateful for them and don't mean to blow up - I think the hormones still raging around our bodies is a great excuse 😅
I’m a huge fan of therapy. I actually made a self referral as asked by the midwife whilst I was pregnant and it took a few months to start. As I had given birth by that time, I was given priority. Not all therapists are a good fit but the current one is amazing! You might have a peri natal mental health team in your locality or ask your gp xx
As Becky said, the post partum rage is real! When you are both calm I would try to talk to him about being the default parent/adult and emotional labour. It sounds silly but there are plenty of good posts on instagram to start you off. Ive explained to my husband that doing the groceries doesnt ‘help’ if I also have to write the list or explain which wipes I meant, or having to make every decision like ‘when was her nappy changed… does she need changed now’ JUST DO IT 😂 and now he understands more about the mental load that mothers are always juggling ❤️
Thanks all, I’ll see if I can muster making a referral. I’ve had a look and you can self refer in my area. Think I’ve just got to work on my communication 😩😩
Yes, more so when my partner asks stupid questions like "what else needs cleaning?"."Use your eyes, look around and see for yourself" 🤦🏽♀️ Communication is definitely key, although I tend to be quite sarcastic/patronising which I should work on, but I can't deal with these questions from him at this point in my adult life 😅 Tip: I try to avoid doing things for my partner or giving him the answers so he becomes accustomed to figuring it out - teach a man to fish etc 😅
The rage is definitely real. I get angry at almost everything these days 🤣
Yes definitely… the first thing is to acknowledge how frustrating and tiring it is to have to be the person responsible for taking the mental load of things. There’s reasons why we react that way and it’s not totally irrational. I know I’m more irritable post partum because I feel I have enough to deal with as it is. It’s a build up of frustration and also we are tired. Communication will help in the long run. Maybe consider therapy also? I’m having that currently and it’s a godsend x