Sold a dream and life is a lie

When you met your partners, did they promise you all you wanted in a husband/dad, and they haven't lived up to any of it. He told me he would never lie or go behind my back, have me as a priority, and always be there for me. Basics, I think. Well, he went behind my back and lied to me about something so silly. He wanted to divorce me when I caught him in the lie and told me I was crazy. I can't be open with him and since I have had his baby he makes jokes that I have let myself go (I am a size 8) I need to make time to exercise (he works a lot and I am on maternity leave with a 5 month old). He makes "jokes" about my apperience, and after a week of having our little girl on my own, he told me why my eyes were dark and asked if I took my makeup off. After our little girl is asleep I don't get time to watch TV because he wants to watch football. We had an amazing sex life, and now we have sex once every 2 weeks! Used to be multiple times a day. I just feel so unattractive, and his "jokes" make me feel even worse. I feel so stuck and drained. I don't want my friends or family to know how low I feel. I just need to get it off my chest and sorry to burden anyone who reads this.

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Sorry to this happening , it’s not very nice & he shouldn’t be talking down to you like that or about it . That’s unfair and uncalled for . He needs to be more supportive towards you . Have you tried to talk to him about how it’s making you feel ? might be worth just chatting about x

He just tells me that I am too sensitive and I can't take a joke. I can't take how he makes me feel and talks to me. Starting to think abut divorce but I know if that happens my little girl will see her dad once a month. Just feel stuck and helpless x

Is there any family or friends you & your little girl can stay for a bit & give yourself some space & both of you time apart to think about what you want ? . I can only imagine how you must be feeling & how hard it is . You don’t need someone talking down to you & making you feel like that . Your feelings matter & so does your wellbeing, put yourself & your little girl first . Hope you can work something out xx

Hi, I'm sorry you feel this way, he should be picking you up not putting you down. I know everybody works different hours so is there a time he gets the weekend off or 2 days at any point. If I were you I would book to go out with a friend or something so you get to be yourself for a day and night but also so he looks after your little one, and then once he gets the reality check of how hard looking after a baby is, hopefully he will have a bit of a mindset change xx

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