Pregnancy after miscarriage

Thanks for sharing ans my heart goes out to you! We lost our Julian at 21 weeks in November and found out I was pregnant again in Feb. I'm about 14 weeks and it's a roller coaster of emotion. I have lots of anticipatory fear along with health concerns, there are so many unknowns. I do the best I can everyday but allowing myself grace because I know my brain is trying to protect itself from pain, and I only know loss. I'm here if you ever want support or someone to talk with!

Oh lovely, I'm so sorry this has happened. I don't think anyone can tell you the liklihood of another miscarriage as we're all different. I gave birth in July 2022 but prior to thst I had 6 miscarriages. We had another miscarriage in October 2023 but fell pregnant again in December 2023, currently 20 weeks pregnant. They say not to stress yourself out and to try and remain calm so your not over stimulated but who knows how much that's true. Youll know what's best for you once you find it. I've found talking to my bump every day helpful. I even talk about their missed siblings you know. When my toddler kisses my belly we talk about siblings and how we hope this one comes earth side. Its healthy to talk about loss. Talk about it as much as you need to. Your partner will be supportive. Or even some of your closest girlfriends. But pregency after loss is a whole different fish. Will they do enchanced checking? I get scanned every 2 weeks, as Ultimately it's reassurance you need. Talk to your epac centre too

I couldn't fit it all in... but if you want to have a chat or talk through how you're feeling. You can message me ❤️. Positive thoughts❤️

Thank you for the kind words. My first appointment is may 16th and they will be doing an ultrasound during that appointment since my last pregnancy ended in early miscarriage

I haven’t told anyone besides my husband yet so I only have you ladies on the app to talk to right now.

Miscarriages are such a taboo subject too. People don't like talking about it do they. I know my friends found it hard in thr beginning to understand me, but I think after so many they get it now 😂. Don't beat yourself up over being pregnant again either. It can be easy to look at the 'what ifs' you know. But talk about it. You're grieving and it's perfectly normal. Are you close with your mum? Or a sister? They might also be able to help you. I have faith in this pregnancy though, you'll come back after your scan and you'll be happy 🥰 x

Hey, congrats on your pregnancy, and sorry for your loss ❤️ I’m also pregnant again after losing a baby at 19 weeks last year and it really is a rollercoaster of emotions. It’s easier said than done but just try to take each day as it comes and remind yourself daily that as far as you know right now, you’re pregnant with a healthy baby. Pregnancy after loss is incredibly hard and I’m not sure the worry really goes away until baby is born (and then of course it’s a whole lot of different worry!) Lean on this group and your husband for support, and take good care of yourself 😘

I'm sorry for your loss and congratulations on your current pregnancy I'm wishing you a healthy pregnancy journey ❤️ there's no telling the odds of it happening again, but most women who have had a miscarriage go on to have a healthy pregnancy afterwards. I was told the odds of me having a healthy pregnancy were very low but I beat the odds after 6 long years and I'm getting close to giving birth to my triple rainbow baby so even if the odds are not great there's always a chance. One thing that helped me during the early stages of this pregnancy was reminding myself that no matter the outcome I could get through it, I had already learned how to grieve the loss of a pregnancy before and even if I had to do it again I knew that I could. No matter what pain life brings it's worth it for the love we have to give, and grief is just love that doesn't have anywhere to go. As I got farther along I was able to feel better about being pregnant again, I would say daily affirmations like "my baby is healthy and strong"

Wow you ladies are absolutely amazing! I need the 4 of you in a group chat from now until who knows when! 🥹 thank you so so much for the advice and the support ❤️ I’m not close with my mother or my sister: I’ve gone no contact a few months ago but what’s a whole different story lol my husband is the only person I can talk to about this at the moment since it’s bad luck to share the news until after your first trimester; so here I am patiently impatiently waiting 😬

I keep seeing online that a positive test the early can mean the pregnancy isn’t going to last or it can mean a chemical pregnancy. Have any of you read this too?

@Dana I haven't heard that but the only thing that pregnancy tests tell you is if it's positive or not, it really doesn't tell you anything about the health of the pregnancy. If you want anyone to talk to through all this I'm always available feel free to message me ❤️

I thinks it's really hard to predict what the likelihood of that would be. It really all depends on each woman but I also have my own suspicions that it can be hereditary. I have been pregnant many times. Once when I was very young & i miscarried. Then again when i was 18 & i was able to give birth to my son. Then shortly after(when he was about 1) i got pregnant again and miscarried at 10weeks. I am now pregnant again and am in my second trimester 21weeks and everything is fine.. i've noticed this is a pattern for me. It was also a pattern with my mother. She had a miscarriage then had my brother prematurely then a miscarriage then had me then a miscarriage then had my sister who had complications and was on a monitor for about 6months. I send you nothing but good vibes and hopes 💗

I'm sorry to read this but just wanted to reassure you. I had a missed miscarriage last year and I was terrified when I found out I was pregnant again, the fear never goes away but I'm now nearly full term with out rainbow. Message me if you want to chat x

I am so sorry for your loss! I’m going to be completely honest as a mommy who lost her son at 36 weeks pregnant last year who is currently 18 weeks pregnant. It’s not gonna be the same again. You’re always gonna carry the fear of something happening again. But it’s up to you to silence it. It’s up to you to not allow the fear to steal your joy. It’s not gonna be easy but I promise. You can decide to have joy again! ❤️ I pray for nothing but rainbows in 2024!