Looking for reassurance that I can do this alone…
My BD and I have been together for 6 years. We had a bumpy time at the beginning where a lot of ups and downs. But the last three years we have been great or so I thought. Talks of marriage and children and a happily ever after. But it’s all been talks. He told me in the summer let’s try for a baby etc but getting pregnant was a surprise as the trying has been non existent for medical reasons on his part. Anyway I found out I was pregnant two weeks after he got sentenced to jail (crimes from 2013-15 way before I met him) obviously not ideal but he will be home in November and baby is due December. I thought this was our little miracle.
He’s trying to bribe me to abort offered holiday, money, marriage, we will try again when I’m out etc etc. my argument is we’ve been together years he said this is on the cards so just cause the timing is far from ideal it’s still our kind of plan for a future and family.
Anyway he said if I don’t abort then the child will be fatherless and so on and that I’m selfish.
My parents have said that they will support as much as they can in terms of childcare etc. fortunately my mother is taking early retirement this summer.
I’m just heartbroken - I want this baby, it’s something I’ve wanted for years and thought we were striving towards. In my mind God willing, this pregnancy will go well and I will be have a healthy baby come December. But am I being selfish like BD says?
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Do what you feel is right. You want the baby. As well as your parents are supporting you. So that’s all that matters.
Omg, it’s the opposite of being selfish!!! And to be honest, what he says sounds a bit manipulative. Do what you feel is right for you. You will be fine, you can do it and you’re not alone!!!
He’s the one being selfish
Seems like your baby is going to have people that love him regardless of its “dad” is in the picture or not. You should keep it if it’s what you wanted .
You are the opposite of selfish, he is being selfish. Whatever you decide as long as it’s up to you and how you feel and you’re treating yourself do that. You can most definitely do it, especially with the great support💘
Do what feels right. Are you ready to be a single parent? And most likely struggle?
I'm going thru the same selfish douchebag fatherless situation and nobody can tell u it will be easy or that u should just forget about him and be a happy mom it's hard I know it it hurts bad but from one hurting heartbroken pregnant mom to another you deserve so much more than that you deserve to have the pregnancy you hoped it would be and I'm sorry he's not sharing those same hopes and dreams .. but one day you will start to resent him for all of it making u bitter loosing all of your faith in happiness in general if u let him . Or you can accept that he won't ever be the man you and ur child deserves and walk away and be the best mom you can be still seeing happiness and faith in things . I hate to say it but regardless of Wich path u choose he won't be there ... I pray that you are stronger than I ever was and that you don't let him tear u down only to realize he never cared the way u did you are so much more than he will ever deserve
Sorry but he sounds like the biggest dead best ever
he sounds manipulative and controlling… by the sounds of it u will have love support and people around to help u with baby and no one has the right to tell u to get rid of a baby my kids dad said that with both mine and i was lucky enough to have my mum and step dad to help me out now mine are 6 and 3 u can do it babe u will be fine xx
By no means are you being selfish.
In reality he is the selfish one here. Personally I think you will do better without him.
Surround yourself with your family and close friends and do whats right for you. 💜
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