Feeling like a bad mom

You are an amazing mom and doing so good! It’s okay you can’t be in the NICU 24/7 I know we want to be with our babies 24/7 but he is surrounded by amazing doctors and nurses who will provide him with amazing care when you can’t be there. I wish more people talked about this but you are pumping the perfect amount. I know it doesn’t seem like much but you are pumping what your baby would feed from you. We don’t come out of the gate making 6oz or more our bodies make the amount of milk our babies need. As he get bigger and is drinking more your body will produce more but he’s only 2 weeks old and that’s how much he eats right now. You’re doing great! I know it’s hard but eat lots your body needs it to make milk and try to get sleep. Your baby is safe and cared for and he needs his mama fed and rested so she can take care of herself and him. Don’t forget to take care of yourself it’s sooooo important especially right now.

I had my little boy on the 1st April at nearly 5 weeks early and he ended up spending the first 10 days of his life in NICU. Like you the only thing I could do for him was express so he had my milk and the best start I could possibly give him. Please know our little ones are stronger than we give them credit for. It’s awful seeing them in NICU but trust the doctors and nurses know what they’re doing. It was heartbreaking when I was discharged having to leave my little one in hospital but he was in the best care possible. Be kind to yourself. As difficult as it is, try and rest. I found plenty of water helped my supply too. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. It will happen. You’ll be no good to your little one if you don’t look after yourself. If you’re at home could you ask the ward to maybe phone you with updates? They offered this at my hospital x

I know this feeling ole so well I had my baby girl 2 months early at 32+1 at 3 lbs 6 oz I hospitalized for 2 months but the only difference is I was able to stay with my baby!!! I just want you to know it’s ok to feel how you feel because they made me feel like I was going crazy. Yes please take care of yourself eat and get lots of rest it easier said than done because I didn’t rest while I was with my baby I wished I did because when your baby gets home it’s hard to get rest well at least for me it is. My baby is 3 months and it’s still hard for me to get rest. 🙏🏾✝️♥️

Also do lots of praying 🤲 that what helped me. You are doing a great job please believe that. This brings me tears 😭 because I have been there. Much love 💕

Please don’t feel like you are failing. Having a baby is one of the biggest life changing moments. Having a baby in NICU just adds to that. Everything that you are doing is amazing! You also need to make sure that you recover so that you are ready for when baby comes home. Baby is in the best place and has the best care. If anything were to happen, they would contact you. In the meantime, just keep doing what you are doing. Try to get to the hospital as much as you can, whether that is for an hour a day or every other day! Just try get as much skin to skin contact as you can when you are there. With regards to pumping, it sounds like you are already doing great. Just keep going! Your milk will increase with supply and demand, so try things such as power pumping to help increase. Make sure you eat well and keep hydrated as this will also help.

Sending you love and compassion as I’m going through the same feelings right now and not sure how to navigate them. I tell myself that I need to be strong for him, as he is being such a little warrior right now. He is in the best hands right now, all I can do is take care of my body so I can provide better for him later on