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And the only family I have is my younger sister and my elderly grandma whom neither I can go to stay with along with my son. My sister is actually in a situation where she lives with her bf at his parents house and was told she needs to leave by November.
That's pretty much just the end of the conversation...
You’re acting like a girlfriend, but it sounds like he wants a roommate. Did he explicitly say he wants to get back together?
@Gin We haven't split.. yet.
@Gin and he probably sounds like that because right now we act like roommates. We don't even sleep in the same room anymore.
I would say if the goal is to stay together then you both need to be putting in an equal effort, but from what I can see you’re doing the majority of the work between most of the childcare, running the house and working part time and yet he’s still asking for more even though he knows you’re not making much money. It’s a tough situation to be in. I believe inheritance money should be your nest egg, not spent on bills. I would try to find childcare assistance and get my old job back because even if the new place doesn’t work out, at least you’ll have a backup plan in case he asks you to leave like he’s hinting at in those messages.
I think you should totally move into the new house! He sounds so childish and rude! You don’t deserve to settle, and your son will grow up happier without the drama around. It’s awesome that it’s a rent to own place, that sets you up later down the road!! $900/month for rent isn’t bad, but to get to own that home for that price??! That’s a good deal, you should jump on it! Put him on child support to help with the daycare bill! If he can’t afford it, he can move in with his mom like he said… 🙄 (odd that at “his age” he thinks he should live at home with mom, again, childish) You can do this!! ❤️
@Tori It's actually only $600 to rent to own. The $300 lot rent is included in the $600. So $600 a month and I'd own the mobile home in 5 years. I won't own the land though.
@Gin and that's exactly how I feel about the inherited money. I wanted to save it and keep it for when I could get a loan and get the home that I want .. not just the home I can.. I feel forced into spending my money on things I don't want either way.
Update btw
He didn't even respond to my question about daycare...
That’s an even better deal! That gives you a lot of financial freedom now, and especially in 5 years. Just paying the $300/month lot rent can be afforded with a part time job! Hoping he gets back to you and you guys can work out a good coparenting plan and a child support arrangement. 🤞 ❤️
@Tori Yea, it's just the daycare part but I did actually find a day care that is only $120 a week today and it's only 7 minutes from the new place!
That’s amazing!!! I hope everything works out for you guys! It seems like everything is aligning in your favor, you got this!!
I'd like to add that my mom just passed away in December so I have a decent amount of savings put up (her beneficiary money). I just call it - money my mom gave me.