Child minders sending child home

I would ask in a non-confrontational way, such as asking for pictures so that you can keep an eye on the overall picture of his health and share with doctors if necessary

@Sophie I dint know if that was aloud to be asked, I think I definitely will be, I completely respect there is procedures in place to keep the other kids safe from being poorly, but seems so odd to me that when I get him he’s never sick or anything, thank you

@Anna if you’re paying someone I think you’re allowed to ask what you like 😊 If she’s not cooperative then maybe she’s not the right childminder for you - you definitely need to see eye to eye on things like this

When my sister put her daughter in daycare she would mark the diaper with a sharpie or pen to see if she was truly being changed, news flash she wasn’t most of the time and when she was changed it was maybe once a week (she went 5 days a week). She stopped going and I started watching her because I have a 3m old son so I’m home right now taking care of him :) the honestly could just be doing that because they don’t want to change your lo I would try the sharpie trick to make sure your child is being changed properly. :) good luck!

Are you still having to pay for the full day even though he's not staying? I would definitely have questions or look for someone else as that seems iffy to me

@Kate it’s standard to have to pay even when a child can’t attend due to ill health. You pay for the place, not the actual days attended. But it does seem suspicious that the child never seems ill when they get home.

@Hailey I definitely will give this a go! I know she does change his nappy as when I pick him up he’s always got a clean nappy on , but I’ll definitely keep this in mind thank you so much! I’m just worried now that he’s not being properly looked after!

@Kate unfortunately we still have to pay for the days he’s not coming in to keep his place, but then when he’s not in I’m not able to go work to earn money to pay for it 😫

@Sophie not once has he come home and been ill, not thrown up, not had a watery poo, she says he don’t eat much but then eats fine at home😩 looking for a new child minder is so hard as everyone charges so much

@Anna the not eating much may be true because my baby doesn’t eat well at nursery at the moment either, I think they can be different in their home environment where they feel more comfortable. But the sickness and diarrhoea thing is weird if you never see any evidence of it at home. I know, childcare is stupidly expensive 😭 but consequently I’d be wary of anyone who’s cheap - there must be a reason!

@Sophie this woman isn’t much cheaper then anyone else, it was just easier for me as she within the same village and her reviews are really good, he’s also currently teething, I tried to explain that to her but she said she can’t risk it with the other kids, understandable but when he comes home fine it just makes you question things 😩

We had this issue when I first returned to work, sending him home for all sorts of reasons and very few times there was actually something wrong with him. This was a nursery setting though. We moved him after 6 months and haven't had any issues since. It was really stressful because although my workplace were so understanding, I felt awful and I was constantly worried I'd get a phone call

@Anna yeah that doesn't seem right at all, I would be looking in to it or looking for someone else (I know it's not easy) but seems this childminder wants half a job and full pay

They must have to fill out a report if the child has a temperature or been given calpol. I would ask for the reports so that you can take to next doctors visit

I work In a nursery and we never send the child home unless we absolutely have to, we even call if you’d like us to give calpol etc first if child is showing signs of being unwell before needing to be picked up, other parents who use childminding aswell as the nursery have complained several times there child gets sent home most of the time and therefore change full time to nursery. So maybe look at your options xx

Ask for the money back from the days he’s been sent home and also proof of illness

@Kirsty honestly it’s so much stress, and the feeling on edge all the time. Thank you

@Kate me and my partner said yesterday that we feel like this woman is just taking advantage of us being new parents as we don’t really know a lot and don’t have no family help

@Francesca each time I have never seen a report or been asked about giving him calpol, iv been told by her that if I have to give calpol to my son he can’t come in that day

@Chloe unfortunately all the nursery’s around me don’t have the availability, I am still looking hopefully something comes around, but I can’t keep leaving to get him , puts my job at risk

@Lisette unfortunately we wouldn’t be able to get our money back, we even payed for extra days this month, I regret that now

If you're in the UK I think it is 2 or maybe even 3 loose movements before they have to be sent home because it could be something they ate for example. Throwing up is different, my son was sick almost every day and car sick to the point he was referred to a paediatric Dr and they wrote me a letter for nursery to say that if he is under investigation for sickness episodes so if sick once and otherwise well (no temp etc...) then they believe he's healthy to stay at nursery and no risk to others... Took me ages to get that though. Turns out he's allergic to strawberry and has asthma 🙄 I'd ask for the child minders sickness policy if I were you

If he’s just being sent home as he didn’t eat much, that’s ridiculous. I’d expect a temperature, vomiting or diarrhoea before is even agree to collect my child.

My son only gets sent home from the childminders if he has a temperature or has runny stools/sickness. If we have to keep him off due to sickness, we still have to pay our day rate to keep his space open x

Id say please can you send me pictures of the nappies so I have something to show the doctor / monitor as I haven’t seen it yet …

@Anna you can also provide a few diapers (the amount he usually goes through within that time frame) and ask to use those ones and count how many are left by the time you pick him up to make sure they are cleaning him properly. A lot of places won’t change them until almost pick up times and then lie saying they just used their own diapers so that’s why they have extra when leaving. So ask for your own to be used and sharpie all of them to make sure :)I would also request proof and if they say it’s “against policy because a kid cant be in the photo” make sure to verify you only want the photo of the diaper, not of your kid :)