Husband not understanding how over stimulated I am
I feel guilty for saying this as my husband is a great provider. We have a 2 year old and a new born who often need a lot of attention at exactly the same time and trying to divide myself between them is a chore in itself but often my husband will come down from the office to off load his work stresses. The baby will be crying, toddler banging on some toy, I’m trying to get the bottle sorted while my husband is talking at me about issues he’s facing at work and I just don’t have time or energy or patience for it.
Yesterday he off loaded to me for half an hour after he finished work an hour later after spending an hour bitching to his colleague and leaving me to complete dinner and bath time alone.
Does anyone else experience this?
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@Vanessa Completely agree with this! I'd also add maybe gently asking him to multitask. Like my partner will vent to me about his day while making a bottle, or will hold and rock baby girl while venting, and even something jokingly look at her and say "isn't that crazy?" And they give each other the same raised eyebrow expression. It definitely is his job too, but sometimes when everyone is stressed and overwhelmed, giving into your frustrations doesn't translate well. And as much as it might seem obvious to us, it isn't always obvious to the other person.
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Hello love! First, don’t feel guilty! Asking for help isn’t saying that he’s not a good provider as you are important too! When I am in these situations, I try to keep my calm and I will caringly tell my partner something to the extent of, “honey, I know you must be tired, I love hearing about your day and it’s important to me that we have some time to spend together and talk. Do you think you can please help me with “insert kid/home/etc here” so we can do that?” NOW I KNOW ITS HIS JOB TOO! But, it’s better to speak to him about the way you feel and ask for help when it’s calm and not in the moment. So definitely express that you need some help and how overstimulated you are feeling, just choose the right time. Good luck love!