It’s my fault?

Over the years my baby daddy has manipulated, cheated, lied, uh hm lied some more, cheated some more, kept me from leaving 3 times. He verbally abuses and mentally abuses me almost daily, even when he’s love-bombing he throws jabs in. He has been physical in the past. Now - he grabbed me and walked me backward toward a 3 foot ledge in our back porch, gripping so hard that it left a bruised handprint immediately. 3 nice red lines and a whole hand. Now that I’m trying to get my things together to go - he says to me “it’s not my fault”. What? 🤯
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Girl it’s not your fault! He’s grown and should be in control of his emotions. Don’t mean to scare you but leave before you end up over that ledge. He sounds abusive and crazy. Leave while you can protect yourself and your babies. Also file a police report and get a restraining order

Get out of there ! Go to a family members house if you can. He needs to get help. You need to get help as well . Never let someone abuse you for no reason. Abusers always deflect

Take pictures of the bruises, keep a record, and file for a restraining order. People like that don't let go easy either.

All of these people are right. I'm a living example. I'm glad I'm alive. I left. Abusers always gas light and deflect.

Thank you ladies, I was starting to think I was crazy. I am trying but I don’t have family to stay with and am a SAHM, live in a rural place, lot of things stacked against me. It’s hard but I’m trying

I truly believe a woman’s strength is unmatched. Despite the cards being stacked against you, you will absolutely find a way ❤️ You’re not crazy and please reach out to Domestic violence organisations and women’s shelters - they can help you with filling in forms, housing, food etc…whatever your personal situation needs. Sending you all of the love!

I think it’s time you calm down and come up with a plan. Strategize! If you are in a bad situation, it’s time you find a job maybe from home so you don’t have to get daycare or have a car. When you build enough money, buy a car. Then you can map out a way to move! This is a long process but it’s the way to keep from falling victim to this over and over ! And if he yells let him. Don’t argue back . Keep it in your mind you have a bigger plan coming . When the opportunity strikes leave without a trace. Get a P.O. Box if you need mail forwarded

My girl! Only waste man abuses women when they lack something. Run like the world is coming to an end, with the the little dignity you have remaining. This is a very toxic environment and you need your sanity. He's not the only man in this world, once you have the courage to finally leave his ass then he'll miss the water when it runs dry. Nah mek no woman little dirty buoy picmi stress yuh My girl!

Of course it’s HIS fault. A narcissist would say that though. Get out asap.

Not your fault at all. You should make sure you and your kids are safe that is the main thing to focus on and try to get help No need to feel responsibility for his actions

I'm so sorry that you are going through this 😞😢💔 Google "women's shelters near me" and call the national domestic violence hotline

Girl get out of there! I just got out of an abusive relationship with my son’s father. It is not worth it and you will feel so free when you leave. If you ever need someone to vent to send me a message!!

Does anybody have experience staying at a shelter? With 2 toddlers? Bonus points if it was in New Mexico.. So - my car is damaged but I think I could get it fixed. Hopefully. Don’t have money or a job. No babysitter or family to stay with. My phone is only on wifi but everywhere has wifi now. Just looking for real situations and what you did. Thanks 🙏🏻

Or even El Paso, TX maybe thanks

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