I feel bad // what do you think?

Babe … a lot of cases start just like this :/ I’m so sorry but I think maybe he needs some counseling on why his approach is so aggressive?

I would get your kids away from him. This sounds abusive. Can you encourage him to get some help with his anger? Kids brains are still developing. They aren’t always going to listen/remember the first time. It takes consistency and repetition. I am sorry you are going through this! I hope you and your kids are okay.

I am sorry you are going through this. These experiences and fear in your daughter’s mind may have life long effect. So do anything in your power to change that situation and take steps to make your kids feel safe and confident. ❤️

This is going to cause years of resentment if you don’t stop it now

He’s a huge red flag

Being with like men like that and them treating my kids like that really destroyed my 18 year old son. If you are not comfortable with how he treats your kids, give him no excuses and stand up for them. In the end it can cause a massive amount of emotional pain. The amount of guilt I have for not standing up for my boys kills me on a daily basis.

@Sarah I’ve spoken to him about his anger and he doesn’t take me seriously that he anger issues. He might not physically harm anyone but he doesn’t realize he’s harming her emotionally, I’ve told him to get the help he needs and if he wants I can always get it with him and he just doesn’t believe in getting help from anyone he says he just acts out of anger because my daughter doesn’t listen to me and I just let her mistreat me like shit

@Sharmi yes I always try to make her feel safe and confident even with him around!😭

I think you should take a strong stand and confidently express what you feel about the situation. Its your call as a mother on how to disciple your kids. He should give you the space to deal with your kids and not get triggered with your kids behavior.

That's straight up abusive! and even though he considers her his child too, it's your job as a mom, especially a biological parent to protect her from harm. If she's having dreams like that, he probably did hit her and that's not ok. She's 6yrs old not a teenager so if she "mistreats" you talk to her about it. Also people with traumatic experiences with their own parents may cause others to react like your husband because, seeing a parent be patient or kind to their child may trigger them cause they lacked that from their parents but, that's not your role to heal his childhood nor is it your child's responsibility. But you need to seriously protect your daughter's well-being and your relationship with her. I don't care if he's your husband, doesn't sound like he has her best interests in mind. I see cases like this all the time and they generally don't end well.

He should not have access to children. I hope you’re able to save your daughter from this monster. She is being abused. Verbally/emotionally/mentally. Please get her away from this evil man. I would get a restraining order with your daughter and any other children you have too. Why are you letting this man do this to your child? She isn’t safe and I’m sure the other children aren’t safe either. I would immediately remove the children from his access. The next time he abuses your daughter or any of your children I hope you call the police. He is traumatizing your kids. Get them out. They can’t escape from him on their own. They will be angry with you one day for not saving them from an abusive childhood. Please save your little girl. You should only feel bad if you keep your children around him any longer.

Have you watched any videos by Dr. Vanessa Lapointe? She might be a smart resource for your husband to watch. She gets into how old methods of parenting are about morality, that your child should behave a specific way as a “good” child. But we know now that’s not the way children’s minds develop. Your husband can’t force them into his idea of morality. Even if it appears to work, it’s causing trauma for your children. If he’s not receptive, it’s time for intervention to protect your children’s emotional wellbeing.

Uhm, this sounds dangerous to you and to the kids. You need to take a step back and look at this as if it was a close friend telling you. You’d probably tell her to leave.. and that’s really he only answer

Is it possible for you get support from somewhere else? I know taking step to leave can be difficult if he is providing some sort of support. Can you arrange for support somewhere else where you have more autonomy, freedom and safety for your kids?