Toys

Hi! Not sure if I’m being overly sensitive but my friend came over today and pointed out that we don’t have loads of toys for baby and called me tight! It made me feel like a bit of a bad mum. For context, baby is 5 months and just learnt to sit up unaided she doesn’t really show any interest in any of the toys we have anyway. She is more interested in a pack of wipes to be honest! We walk everyday for around 2 hours and have lots of friends on maternity so also socialise a lot so she gets a lot of stimulation everyday from nature and conversation.

How many toys do your babies have? Should I have more?!! Feeling a little guilty to be honest!

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Don’t feel guilty! Bit of an unnecessary comment from your friend!
Walking/socialising is what my baby loves too. I try entice her with toys but baby’s get bored so easy at this age I wouldn’t worry. I’m sure you have more than enough to keep your little one entertained! Xx

The Ready, Steady, Baby book says that you are your baby's favourite toy! What you're doing sounds way better than any product you could buy.

My baby has very few toys (more like teething toys) she would rather play with every day objects anyway 😂 don’t stress! I feel less is more with babies 🥰

My baby is almost 6 months and only really has teething toys… anything we do buy doesn’t really entertain him at all.. we tend to go to swimming, socialise and go for a walk everyday and he’s more than occupied & is hitting all of his milestones 🫶🏼x

Thanks for the reassurance ladies this makes me feel better xx

Until maybe 2 or 3 weeks ago we just had sensory things like teether rings, rattles, crinkle mats, black and white cards. And then I visited my friend who has a 9 month old and she absolutely loved his singing /light up toys so we went and got 3 for her! We don't have loads but she enjoys the rotation of sensory & singing/lights x

Wow that’s so rude! Babies aren’t usually bothered about toys for a long time. My LB loves his wipes, the tv remote, and my phone. We have toys but he’s only bothered about 1 of them. As long as you’re interacting with baby and that’s what you’re doing you’re doing great mama xx

So we have a fair few toys, however, little man isn’t interested in the majority of them! He would much rather just lay on his play mat or play with me🥰 x

My baby just turned 5 months and literally it has his baby gym and another couple of toys. No amount of toys is more or less. At this point babies needs love, interaction and just basic toys relevant to their development.

So as far as I can see you are doing just fine mama😊

We were given lots of toys, my 5 month old is more interested in a pack of wipes and his feet. Your friend is a poo head.

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