Guilty mother here…. ☹️
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As Jodie said hun, you're doing a great job. I have a 4yo and 4mo and still have these moments of guilt where I am overstimulated and on my own whilst my husband does his own thing and have raised my voice on too many occasions. Will definitely be trying the breathing, leave the room and reset option. You've got this Mumma xx
Thank you so much @Sammi Loveday and @Jodie I just want to be the best mum, my beautiful boy deserves that. I still feel guilty but your words have really helped me feel better tonight as I sit here on my own, cradling him sleeping in my lap♥️ Motherhood is the most beautiful thing but it’s also lonely at times x
It's the hardest job ever, as rewarding as it is, but like you said it can be such a lonely place at times too. You're not alone, reach put when you can, even if it's just on Peanut. You are doing a great job and you're little boy knows you love him unconditional you are his security, his safe place as much as it doesn't seem it, it is a compliment that your LO is like this with you. X
Sleep deprivation and never getting enough alone time is incredibly straining and shoving your baby on to your boob is nothing, it doesn’t sound like your baby cried or picked up on you being angry. It takes all of my mental strength sometimes to simply put my baby down gently in the pram and walk away to cry/scream/tear my hair out. My mum told me a story of her grandmother once sticking a nappy pin right into her baby’s tummy because she was so tired and fed up and was angry and rushing the nappy change. Mothers have to get through so much emotionally and physically, it’s hardly surprising lots of people lose their cool sometimes! Don’t beat yourself up, you didn’t hurt your baby or yourself and you’re doing a great job, especially if your partner is away during the dreaded sleep regression! Maybe you can ask him to take a night shift when he gets back, so you can rest. I’m a much better wife and Mama when I’ve had some decent sleep ❤️
Sometimes things can get overwhelming especially as we’re first time moms! With all you have going on it’s no wonder you got frustrated. Don’t think you’re a shit mom with just one little bit of frustration you’ve shown you never hurt your little one and they were still safe. Sometimes when things get tough and my partner is out all day I put my little one in her Moses basket and walk into the kitchen to make a coffee and reset myself to carry on to try and calm the crying. It’s natural for us to have bad days and times where we struggle we just need to make sure that when we have those moments baby is safe and we take a step back for 2mins before we carry on. You’ve got this and your doing great, take a deep breathe and keep going you make a great mama and your baby is lucky to have you🥰x