Need some positive words 🙏🏻

Ef his family for running their mouth. My advice? Be a tough ass and SCREW what they say. Just tell them you don’t care what they think and well this is how things are done in my household. Will your husband stick up for you? He should be…I’m mad for you. But my MIL came to visit for over a week and did NOTHING to help. Cooked Easter meal is it. Didn’t help with kids. And she always has opinions too. People suck, just be strong for you and your baby and develop a warrior mindset. Once they see you are strong and just do what you want. Even if you don’t feel confident just fake it. They won’t know, you GOT THIS! PM me if you ever want to chat always down to support mommas ♥️

I’m sorry love ! Just know you are doing a great job you are a great mother in your son love you more than you know it ! 🫶🏻

It takes a LONG LONG time to acclimate to life with a newborn. I can see how they maybe trying to give you some motivation but that will come with time. Don’t think too much into it and let them know they need to stop bc it’s doing nothing but depress you more. I suggest asking your parents or them to watch your infant to give you a break. I never wanted anyone watching my infant either but I desperately needed a break and alone time. You’re in the thick of post partum which is completely normal

Where does your husband and his family think you live? Stepford? From 2 month old babies need a bit more than bottle, nappy changed and bed. My baby is really alert now ☺️ Unless I have somewhere to be on the day I'll make any excuse to stay in my room with the baby. I can't remember the last time I didn't have breakfast in bed. I don't wear makeup but I have my favourite skin products to hand as well as eyebrow stuff. When I do get up mid morning I start with bottles (I love cleaning bottles for some reason) The day will be a mix of baby stuff , housework and a bit of me time to either write my novel or practice the guitar. As for the evening meal - well I do try and cook something nice and simple for me and my 17 year old son. Most of the time he gets to take away a plate of hot food while I'm grabbing bits between burping my newborn 🤣 mmm cold food 🤣🤣 There's one room in the house I won't touch - my son's room. Other than that I try and tidy up as I go along

Girl it’s not just you, I promise! It doesn’t feel like it, but you will begin to hit a groove with it where you figure out what works for you as far as balancing it all. But your baby comes first and everything else is basically a cosmetic issue. You know what I mean? It’s so irritating when the grandparents act like that cuz obviously don’t remember what it was like with a newborn otherwise they would treat us like we aren’t good enough! I bet they struggled too!!! Just been too long for them to remember now 🤣

I get that now and I’ve been a sahm for years. They think you don’t do nothing all day but lay around. It’s not easy at all probably when they get older where they can help out around the house. So when they get to taking crazy like that I do ignore them and pray for them they just mad bc they couldn’t be a sahm or try to push their what if agenda on you. They want to give unsolicited advice but don’t want to physically come and help. But it’ll get better girl it will

They are being jerks. Parenting with pretty much no help is hard!!! Screw them.

My husband likes to say have the easiest job and then he can’t last one hour loool

@Sable he says I expect too much from him and that he can’t do it all either but honestly he does nothing if he’s not working late he gets home at 2pm spends 2 hours eating and shitting then he wastes the rest of the day going to hang out with people or playing basketball or playing his ps5. I understand he needs a break too but like every day to waste all day?? It’s getting irritating. I’ve been asking him to put together our patio furniture for 2 years now among a million other things 🥲🥲

Is there a way you can book yourself some appointments or somehow have to be away from the house on one of your husband's days off? He can mind the baby while you go out. You'll get time to yourself AND he will have a better understanding of what it's like....not cool that they are being critical of you. Caring for a baby is not easy and who cares if the house isn't perfect!

I know this feeling and if one day you can make him miss work and stay ALLLLL DAY with baby while you go to “appointments” or something then maybe he might understand

Baby is always number one priority while they are this tiny. That other stuff can come later. You have to deal with feeding and naps and playing with your baby. I will say that meal prepping has been a life saver for me. That and decluttering the house so there is less to clean. But being a sahm means you're prioritizing your baby and his or her needs . Cleaning can wait. Meal prep when you have down time. Buy baskets to hide all your shit in that you don't have time to deal with. Also tell your in laws to mind their own business. 🫶

@Jenna he understands but at the same time he doesnt. When he watches him he’s literally unable to do literally anything else he can barely change his diaper by himself but somehow he expects me to be able to do everything! Today we were talking and we want to clean all day tomorrow since it’s his day off and he’s like well someone has to be with the baby only one of us can really do anything and I’m like so how do you expect me to do everything when it’s just me??? He was like well he takes a nap for 30 minutes I’m like how much can I really get done in 30 minutes I end up running around trying to pee eat do laundry vacuum mop all in 30 minutes like be realistic

you aren’t alone!! i’m in the same boat. i always tell myself that my baby is my top priority. just keep the house clean enough to where it’s safe for her and the rest i can get when i have time. as long as your little love is happy and cared for then who cares if there’s some dishes in the sink or laundry that needs to be folded. do what you can!! baby steps. you’ll get there. (and trust me. everyone telling you that you aren’t doing enough is lying. they definitely struggled too!! everyone has!!)

I could have written this also! I’m even lucky and have a cleaner 2 hours a week which honestly I duno what I’d do with out her. Trying to clean a bathroom with an inquisitive 11 month old takes 5 x as long. How did women do it back in the day I just don’t know … have you expressed to your husband that you’re struggling ? That’s what I did and why we agreed to get a cleaner to help take some of the chores as my LO only naps in her pram or car so I don’t get that time when she’s sleeping to “catch up”