How would you handle this ? - traveling

My step daughter isn’t with us often . My daughter (her half sis) is the only granddaughter (blood) for my parents . Obviously they try to include SD but it’s hard when she’s not here often . My parents are near 70s but still want to do things with my daughter . For example they want to take my daughter to Disneyland . But my husband said it’s not right to go without his daughter . So I said we can all coordinate a date . But my husband doesn’t want me family to go because he believes that 4 of us should have the opportunity to do things as “a family” . I get where he’s coming from but it’s not fair to me, my daughter, or my parents . I suggested that we can go us 4 then I can take my daughter with my parents but he thinks that’s a waste of money . I’m trying to compromise but he doesn’t get it . He’s not close to his family . I get that he’s trying to accommodate his daughter but at the same time his daughter has gotten to experience Disney with his parents, as well as bm’s side of the family as well. Why can’t my daughter have the same ?

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That’s the most ridiculous thing tell him too shut up. Your parents are well within there rights too take your daughter wherever they want. Not everything that’s fair is going too make everyone happy. Don’t let your daughter miss moments for the sake of keeping Sd happy you’ll start resenting your relationship x

@Melanie that’s how I feel . And he’s saying it’s a waste of money. But I’m sitting here like ok ?? I didn’t ask him for money. And I’m trying to be fair and considerate in saying that ok I respect he wants time for the 4 of us but that shouldn’t dictate the rest of the experiences our daughter has just because he doesn’t want to participate . At least that’s my opinion.

Tell him too plan a separate trip too Disney with the 4 of you abs you’ll go too that but you’ll also be taking her with your family. He has no right too dictate what you plan with you child.

That’s a hard no. Your child shouldn’t miss out on experiences with her grandparents because SD isn’t around, that’s not fair to her. You’re allowed to do family activities when SD isn’t there, life shouldn’t stop when she’s with her mom.

Umm WHAT?!. Why should your daughter compromise her childhood and not be able to make memories with your 70 year old parents especially if SD already had a chance to go to Disneyland? I would set a date to go to dland a month in advance with your parents and that should give your husband more than enough time to coordinate scheduling with the SD’s mom. If he fails to do so go anyway. The focus on dland is not about him, you, or SD, it’s about making memories with grandparents because they’re the not getting any younger.

I would go with daughter and parents to Disneyland. Life isn't stopping for your step daughter when she is at her mom's house, it sounds like she is getting tons of experiences with her mom and mom's family. It shouldn't stop life for your daughter. She shouldn't get half a life just because her sister is gone to her mom's house.