What to do if you have no one to watch your toddler whilst you go into labour?!
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Could you look into a babysitter and message a few explaining the situation? Does he/she go to nursery, you could speak to them and see if anyone could help?
@Georgia unfortunately I’ve had complications through my pregnancy and need to be monitored closely in hospital. All my friends work and there’s no one who can just drop their job at the drop of a hat 😩😩
@Bex he does go to nursery 2 days a week but I’m worried if I go into labour overnight or something then don’t know what I would do.
Is there no way of reconciliation with your mum? Not even trying to make up so your mum can watch your toddler but just to get the relationship back on track, especially if you don’t have any other family around? You should try not to let an argument ruin your whole relationship. (Just my perspective- obviously I don’t know what the argument was about to understand how bad it was)
@Chloé Collier I completely agree and I’ve tried but I hurt her feelings and she won’t accept my apology. I don’t know what else I can do. We were super close before. She does so much for me and my family but it’s her call now 🤷♀️
The toddlers father?
@Denise yes this is of course the last option as I really want him at the birth. Don’t fancy going through labour on my own 😩
Have you asked your hospital what their regulations are? I mean they probably wouldn’t allow a toddler in delivery but they may be allowed at the hospital for the duration of your stay minus the actual delivery bit! Some hospitals have a crèche you could always look into!
I get you e had a fall out with your mom. But surely that doesn’t mean she should not help you out. Unless she’s fell out with her grandchild too 🤦🏻♀️ I’m close with my mom. But I know if we ever have a major fall out she would always be there on a moment of need. ESPECIALLY for her grandchildren x
@Lauren I would like to think she would still be there but she’s currently not talking to me or anything and I’m worried if I was to go in labour today for example, she wouldn’t wanna help 🤷♀️
Yep I did. Labour solo and highly Don’t recommend!
A lot of the staff at my daughter’s nursery also do babysitting. If there’s a staff member that your toddler is close to then speak to them, they may offer the same, even overnight? X
Was kinda in the same situation of having no family or friends to watch my daughter while I had my other baby so I took took her to the hospital with me and they had no problem with it, she was even there when the baby was born ( she was sleeping so didn’t see or hear anything) so I would definitely recommend asking the hospital what policy they have about it,
I’d reach out to some friends and see if there is anyone that you could contact in an emergency. I know for a fact if you were a friend of mine I would want to be around to help! Don’t be scared to ask ☺️ You could then have a back up - nursery in the day if you need to go and a friend out of hours? I also think your mum would probably still want to help too but understand if you’re not sure now about even bringing it up/asking.
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in your case i would they add leave her with a close friend of relative of your partners maybe you have stated you have had complications in your pregnancy so i definitely would advise against bringing her to the hospital as you have no clue the type of labour you will have or how long you will need to stay in hospital for so it’s definitely not fair on your small child to have them in that environment they won’t provide you child with food let alone a bed im sure if your partner was to ask your mum she would watch your daughter for you
This might seem a bit out of pocket, and some nurseries have strict policies against it, but in one of my son's nurseries the staff used to offer babysitting outside of nursery hours. You could always ask if any of the staff offer that and would be available, though obviously it's tricky to exactly "plan" around that.
Explain to nursery if labor occurs during working hours you may need him to go there. Then maybe have a friend who can take over for the night after they work. Worst case is hubby can stay for the labor and then go home with toddler after. My hospital had a rule that children could not sleep there. But visiting hours were any time. As long as the child wasn’t sleeping they could visit. So maybe toddler and hubby could stay all day with you and then only go home to sleep during your stay. Hopefully you and your mom make up! Have you tried reaching out again and explaining you want her support and you understand y’all are going through an argument but at the end of the day she is your mom and you need her?
I would see if any of the teachers at nursery babysit. If they do, they might be open to being on call. Worse case, they could meet you at the hospital to watch the toddler while giving birth? Also, In the moment, your mom might be willing to take the toddler.
Something like this is available in London and Manchester https://www.hellomums.co.uk/birth-cover I wouldn't trust my mum in that scenario as she would ruin my oxytocin with her drama and negativity sadly. I won't make the mistake of letting her know I'm in labour again let alone letting her be around me!
I hope you get the outcome you want 🫶🏻
I’m not sure if your nursery allows it, but you could ask the teachers if then would be willing to babysit? If that’s against protocols, I bet them know other teachers that would be willing to
Have you considered a home birth? I know it's a bit short notice to prepare but always an option. Or have you got any friends that your toddler knows that can watch them? X