Health Visitors!
Need a good rant SORRY but does anyone else feel like HV's seek joy by trying to make you feel like a bad parent or is it just me!? 🫠
I took my son to the HV drop in clinic to query something about his skin, they weighed him whilst he was there, plotted it on a graph and said that he hasn't put on enough weight and that they want to refer me to a feeding specialist, essentially, what I am doing is not good enough and he's withering away
This is my second breast fed child, and the HV's should know more than anyone that ALL children develop differently!?
He turned 3 months old last week, he is quite clearly happy and healthy and fed on demand whenever the heck he wants some din din
I ALWAYS come away from HV's pissed off for whatever reason
Can anyone offer me reassurance?😪
It's currently 4:35am where we live, I've been up since 2am with my toddler (2years9months) who has vomited 5 times.
I'm not sure what it could be, whether food poisoning or a stomach bug, but he's exhausted and has finally fallen asleep.
I'm just really shaken up and don't think I'll sleep tonight. I'm 37 weeks pregnant, sitting on my birth ball next to his bed just watching him and listening for signs he may be sick.
He woke me up over his baby monitor at 2am, I just heard him coughing and spluttering and thrashing around in his bed, it gave me such a massive fright. I don't mind vomit so much, like physically I'm not someone who's bothered by vomiting and ill happily catch it in my hands, but him being unwell just gives me SO much anxiety, and I'm already a hormonal mess atm.
It's so typical that it happens tonight as my husband has a really important day at work tomorrow. Usually he works from home but he has an important meeting in the office tomorrow that he can't miss. He's been up helping me since 2am but I've told him to go back to sleep now. Now I'm just sitting here full of anxiety. Can anyone reassure me, give advice etc?
He started being sick at 2am, again at around 2.30, 3, 3.30, 4.15. He's just completely conked out asleep he's exhausted. He's refusing water, he took one little sip after the 2nd bout of sickness and just threw up again. I have it here just in case of course. I've had to change the bedding, his clothes twice, my clothes, we have several towels dirty too. I'm so overwhelmed and anxious 😪
And he's been sick before obviously but just never so much in such a short space of time.
“Bad mum”
I had a Mother’s Day afternoon tea yesterday for myself, my mum and my MIL. MIL arrived and didn’t say anything to me, just walked in and sat down. My mum was fussing over my LG as she usually does whilst I was in and out sorting food, making a bottle, feeding the cat, but she was getting wriggly so I took her and put her on her play mat and when I walked away to get her some toys to play with she whinged a bit so I said “I’m not leaving you, I’m coming back” to which my MIL replied “she is leaving you, she’s a bad mum”. It was probably meant as a joke (maybe) but I’d never say anything like that, even as a joke. Probably being a bit over sensitive but I’m tired and constantly doubting if I even know what I’m doing. It’s bad enough thinking I’m a bad mum every day without somebody literally saying it. I spoke to my partner about it, both at the time and afterwards, and he’s said she was out of order… but not out of order to say anything to her but even if he did, she’d just deny it or say it was a joke. The worst part is she actually has no interest in my LG, she only wants to see her if her friends are round at her house and then she wants me to take baby round for her to show her off, who to me are just strangers. To add insult to injury, after she called me a bad mum, she said that her niece had a baby a month before me, and my LG “will probably catch her up when she’s ready” 🙄 Again, baring in mind, she’s seen my LG 3 times since she was born and she’s nearly 5 months old but has implied that she’s not developing as quickly as the other baby. I know babies develop at their own rate but my LG is rolling, trying to crawl, can sit up with very little support, can bring a spoon from a bowl to her mouth to feed herself (I’ve not given her any food, but we practiced with a spoon to see if she was showing any readiness to start weaning). I think she’s doing really well so I don’t think she needs to “catch up” 🙄
The cherry on top of the day was that we sat down to eat and she felt an appropriate topic to discuss was my partners upcoming colonoscopy and bowel prep 😂
I think the outcome and the 2 hours that she was here is that we won’t be seeing her again anytime soon, and I know that wouldn’t bother her in the slightest, which is quite sad when my LG is her first grandchild and she has no interest in her
That’s my little rant over
