Loss

I miscarried our first baby Saturday just gone. As the weeks gone on, I'm finding it hard to deal with. It's taken me by great sadness, disappointment and frustration! I don't want to go out, I don't want to work, I just want to stay home and cry! Is this even normal to feel so sad?

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First of all, I am so sorry for your loss.
I had a MC 2 weeks before Christmas, and it SUCKS!
Your feelings are valid!!!
You are allowed to feel any way you need to, to process what has happened.
Please be kind to yourself and take your time.

I’m so sorry for your loss .. it’s so normal to feel sad ! I have recently had a MMC at 12 weeks after seeing a heart beat at 9 weeks .. it was so shocking and unexpected. Just be patient with yourself and your feelings. I found for me it was very overwhelming dealing with having a D&C and then realising it’s something that won’t go away however gets easier the more you surround yourself with people who can support and love you through it. Hopefully you heal physically and emotionally quickly and then can start trying again and get your rainbow baby 💖💖

So sorry for your loss 💕

Please take the time you need, to process what's happened and your feelings. It's so difficult. Emotionally and Physically.
Sit on the sofa, with you favourite snacks, box of tissues and cry.
If you need to reach out to the GP and get signed off work.

Try not to bottle it up (so glad you haven't gone incognito) be honest with those around you. 1 in 4 pregnancies, we need to talk about this, it's more common than people think.

Your partner may react differently to you, that's okay too.

No one tells you that you're really fertile in the next few weeks/months or so. Only you and your partner can decide, if that's right for you. Personally my rainbow baby came very quickly after our loss and I didn't enjoy my pregnancy because I was grieving.

Sending hugs 💓

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Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻

At this point I’m not enjoying motherhood

My 22 month old is horrendous at the moment🫣 biting, hitting, pushing, pulling and shoving not only adults but children he also wants what other children have and will just snatch it away from them.

We repeat ‘nice hands’ ‘be gentle’ ‘let’s share’ etc

But how do I make him understand what he’s doing isn’t very nice? At the end of the day I feel like I’ve just been saying his name all day and nothing else.

What can I do?