Anyone else???

I’m finding this stage so much harder.

A lot of the time I feel out of my depth and just doing the wrong thing by my baby.

I only have one child, I could never have more, don’t know how people do it?!

Between sleep deprivation that’s still very much a thing, development and the impact it has on relationships it’s just so much.

It honestly feels like everyone else finds it hard but is able to deal with it better.

Sorry such a depressing post! I think 1st birthday round the corner makes me feel like I should be finding it easier now like everyone says it is from the newborn days!

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This stage is definitely harder!! I dont feel i ever get much of an opportunity to stop and relax! Sending love x

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I'm definitely with you in some ways. The newborn stage was a piece of cake for me but now it's definitely getting harder I definitely won't be having more for many reasons but the number one reason is I feel I would be stretched way too thin with another one I couldn't give this amount of commitment to another baby and have any time for myself plus work so I totally get what you mean it's not easy

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It’s hard.. some days are easier than others but I’m always knackered and don’t feel like I’ve gotten myself back at all. What makes it worse when you see mums who look put together and I’m here with 4 day old hair (thank god for dry shampoo). I can’t cook properly, shower properly, clean the house.. but it does get easier from what I can remember with my other children. Sending care xx

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I just want to say I GET IT my lo still doesn’t sleep and I believe the sleep deprivation is what is causing issues with me and my partner, she will only nap in cot for 30 mins rest is contact so I cannot get anything done, she’s all over now so even washing the dishes whilst she’s awake is hard, she won’t go in her pen screams the house down so I now only put her in when I pack the car. My house is no show home but I feel like I’m drowning with to dos I can only shower if I get up before her which I don’t always do bcos the sleep is so bad feel free to message me if you want to chat x

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Ps I wish I could say when it gets easier bcos all I’ve heard is she’ll sleep when on solids, she’ll still when on 3 meals she’ll sleep when on the move she’ll sleep when one nopeeeee

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The newborn stage for me is easy (I have 4 children) the hardest is around 18m when they start dropping naps altogether some days and them starting nursery
They are on the go non stop and even going to the toilet in peace is a luxury.
But having 2 adult children and an 11 year old as well as a May 2023 baby I can honestly say you'll blink and these days will be gone, it doesn't feel like it at the time as a day can feel like a lifetime while your in the throws of it but I miss these days once they are gone (which is probably why I had more after a big gap hahahal

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Newborn stage was piss easy and that's the part I was worried about the most 😂 I found from around 4 months it got difficult, 12 months later and I'm still struggling, I think it's because we kind of lose ourselves aswell and there isn't a way around it, we are just mum, my relationship has 100% come under fire since having the baby and we are so close to splitting but I keep telling myself it will get easier, most nights when I finally get in to bed I'm like "WHAT THE FU#K WAS THAT" 😂

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day 7 old hair here- i need shares in dry shampoo 🤦‍♀️

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Not depressing at all. Literally came on here to write the same thing.

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Oh I agree 100% (on our second and last baby here!)

I said this to a friend of mine, I'll take the newborn stage any day over this stage. It is HARD.

They are becoming so much more complex with their needs and development, it's awesome! But not being able to communicate, reason or compromise 😴

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Im just re reading everyone’s comments and its so interesting to read so many of you say that your experience of the newborn stage as easy! So fascinating. Mine was the hardest most horrendous experience ever. For so many reasons it was just SO TOUGH. And I feel like at 11.5 months now I’m like “ok. I’ve got this” while still having ups and downs but more manageable than before

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@Lana my friend felt exactly the same, she's just had her second baby and said this feels so easy this time around. I think it depends on your newborn I guess! My first was an easy peasy by the book, good sleeping, all clock work. Hers had horrendous colic and slept awfully. I think sleep makes a load of difference 😬

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