Women vs. Men (mindset and household)

This makes me think about one tiny thing that drives me absolutely insane about my husband. When we’re getting ready to go somewhere I get up and get myself ready then get our daughter ready while he gets ready. Not a big deal that’s how I prefer it the one thing is he finishes getting ready, grabs his keys and wallet, and puts shoes on then walks through closing all the doors. Because he’s ready that must mean it’s time to go but I still have to go back in our room, her room, and the bathroom to brush my teeth or grab jackets and socks and toys. He still doesn’t understand why it frustrates me “because it only takes a second to open” but to me it’s so much deeper he just doesn’t think about everything I have to do to get us out of the house then wonders why I’m always frazzled when we have to be somewhere at a certain time

Men are not wired like us, they are protectors and providers, we are caretakers and it’s sooooo frustrating as the woman and mom of the house to want him to help partake and so more than financially and sexually provide and protect, that there’s more in the combo

i don’t think that’s true. men aren’t wired all the same like how women aren’t all the same, some women prefer to work, some prefer staying home etc. my husband does all the night diaper changings, he’s the one who makes breakfast, i cook when he’s at work but when he’s back he cleans the house, the dishes, and does the laundry on top of caring for our kids. he’s a provider in every aspect- financial, emotional stability, caring for his kids. i guess it depends how they’re raised, cultural background, and their own individual mindset/personality. because my husband does a lot for our family to the point where it looks like i do nothing lol, but he loves taking care of us and funding all my shopping sprees, never complains and wants/insists on doing things around the house for us. but i don’t think it’s fair to see it as men vs women because no two men and no two women are the same

@quiddo my hubby is like that too. But I think they are a rare breed. Consider yourself lucky.

I wonder the same at times. My husband does a lot also but then at times seems to only think about him first Very frustrating

Personally I think it’s a cultural and societal thing. Men are brought up differently, from a young age the women dote on the boys and are expected to do more household chores and cooking.

If you are with a man or raising a man, be part of the change and treat them to be a part of a household, not above it like the emperor

This is not an across the board thing. When we go out we both get everything ready. Usually the system we use is that I get our son dressed etc and my husband collects all the gear we need and packs the car. But it also changes just depending on what else is going on. Sometimes he gets our son ready while I’m in the shower or whatever needs to happen. I will say that I made it clear from the beginning and on a regular basis that I was not interested in being a married single mother and we have had several discussions over time on how to actually make the division of labour more fair but he was ideologically on board from the beginning and actually does put in the effort

@quiddo I understand that. You have a lucky man then.

@aria you go mama! You are Supermama don’t forget it, but at times we do need help lightening our loads!