Mom car opinions

I don’t have what most people would consider a “mom car”. It’s a Honda Civic Type R. I know civics can be a great family car but I have been receiving a lot of mixed opinions from friends and family about mine. I think people hear that it’s a “sports car” and think I should get a new vehicle that’s more family oriented. I’ve had this car for years and it’s been so reliable. It has 4 doors and can easily fit a car seat in the back without any concerns of safety. This is my first pregnancy and we are expecting our little guy in a few weeks. My husband has a truck so we do have another vehicle as well. Has anyone experienced anything similar about their vehicle and should I actually consider getting a new car? I want to know if my car is actually impractical from others experience or if I should maybe just see how things go once the baby is here and how all our comfort levels are.

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I personally don't think it matters, as long as it fits in a carseat with no problems, gets you from a to b what does it matter to other folk?

Me and my partner both have an Audi A3, his being an S-Line, we both drive sensibly and I wouldn't even consider getting rid of it when it's a perfectly good car

Hey! If it has 4 doors and reliable and can easily fit a car seat safely, I wouldn’t get a new car. It’s your car and you like it and it’ll work for you and baby 😊 people have very weird and strong opinions about everything, even more so when baby arrives. Do what works best for you. A reliable car that you already have sounds like the perfect car to me!

You definitely don’t need a new car for 1 baby!! If you had 2+ then you might just for space but you’re totally fine. I drive a ford focus hatchback and it’s been perfect.
The only issue is if you want a convertible car seat you have to be really careful because some are really big and won’t fit. I had to get a graco one so it would fit in my car.

I have a Honda Civic & had TWO car seats in the back. I just bought another car to prepare for the 3rd kid, but if I wasn’t pregnant, we would still be in the HONDA! Lol I say if it’s not broken don’t fix it!

Honda Civics are good cars. I never heard of them being referred to as sports cars, just sedans. When you only have one baby, the Civic should be fine. If you go on to 3+ kids, I would think about a larger vehicle, but for one child, a sedan is fine. I know other parents in small sedans with their first child.

I have a Honda Element that only seats 4 (driver included), so if we have 3 kids (we haven't decided between 2 or 3 yet; on #1 right now) then I know I'll have to upgrade. My partner has a Chevy Malibu that isn't very spacious in the back, but there's room for a car seat, so we're good to go for now. Thoughts of expanding are far off!

So jealous. I have wanted a type r for so long. Lol. If it works for you, thats all that matters!

Your car is fine. I had a Toyota Corolla when I had my daughter.

I have a Kia forte 2018 and my mom has been nagging us about getting a bigger car for the baby. Because there’s gonna be two car seats( one for my husband’s son and one for ours). If your car is running great, keep it. Because car payments, gas, insurance ain’t cheap. Ride the car until the wheels fall off.

My wife has a truck, and I had an Acura ILX and she got me an explorer as my push present for our first babe because she said I needed more of a family car 😂 I ended up loving it tho because all the space is so nice! Just upgraded to a new explorer limited for this next babe coming because it has captain seats which seems much more feasible with 2 kids.

Also just saw that you have two pups. Not sure what kind they are or if you like to bring them places with you, but we have 2 labs and it's so much easier to pack my car with all our crap and throw the dogs in the back vs stuffing the two dogs and our daughter into my wife's truck. So that's another thing to consider!

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This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

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He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.