Feeling lonely

Anyone else just feeling really lonely and isolated on mat leave?

I only have a limited budget so unable to fill up the week with baby classes. We go to a mummy and baby yoga class hut that’s it.

So we stay at home most days in our small flat while my partner works and returns around 8:30.

It’s hard to establish any kind of routine (my lo is 12 weeks) and I find I’m unable to focus on anything like reading or drawing or anything that isn’t housework or watching tv because as soon as I get into something, she needs me.

I’m just wondering what is everyone else doing? Does anyone feel the same? I absolutely love being with my daughter and people say to cherish these moments as I will never get the time back, but I find most of the time I’m scrolling tik tok or watching Netflix and it’s starting to make me feel a bit rubbish.
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Try looking at your local church groups. They normally have baby/toddler groups that are only a couple of pounds so much more affordable than others. You don’t have to go to the church yourself. Also ask your health visitor because there are sometimes local free groups they can point you towards

What natashaa said have a look round for cheap/free baby groups to get youse out and about I go to a church one and its £1 and in my eyes actually the best one it's aimed at kids a little older but my LB loves a good nosey round and keeps him stimulated and you get to chat to other mums etc

Try local mums and tots groups as they typically are suggested donations of a pound. Where I live there is one on every day of the working week.

I have heard some areas have walking groups as well that might be worth going to.

On my council website they have a list of free baby classes in all the local libraries that are free. Maybe you have something similar near you x

As the others have said, church halls are often only £1 per child and the libraries do free music classic etc which we love! Baby sensory etc is fab but not really sustainable long term 🙈 We often walk to Greggs and I get a coffee and a bun for a treat their app has great offers and points x

I second just going out on a walk and getting a coffee, it’s fresh air, a change of scenery and can also get a bit of adult interaction sometimes too ❤️

Yep I feel the same, I went to a church group last week on my own and I felt more on my own tbh just sat there on my own

Trying looking for local mum groups, I'm in a WhatsApp chat, we meet up for walks a couple of times a week. All free (other than the odd car park) and a great way to get fresh air for you and baby.

Yes ! And sometimes too much effort to even leave the house … but, I always feel better after. What about a little walk or a nosey into town. The school run and tescos is my only adult interaction lately 🙈

Thanks everyone for these suggestions. Sending love to the postee too 💛

Aw I am sorry you feel this way. It definitely doesn’t have to be expensive. I found lots of local free groups or something like £1-£3 to attend and they are great. Usually community halls, churches and libraries have free baby groups.

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