Postpartum

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🫂 You're not alone in this. It is hard and it changes you physically and mentally but I was the same with breastfeeding. My boy didn't latch and had to give formula. I just told people to f off with their opinions about breastfeeding. No one understands that our life changes dramatically and we still have to function at normal limits and take care of a tiny human at the same time. Feel free to message me if you want to talk about anything. It's always good to let out, even if it's to a total stranger. We're here to help each other.😊 We're all going through the same thing. I don't thing there's a mom here that can say her life if perfect and doesn't struggle with anything

Oh I can relate more than you know. I’m sorry you are struggling but I’m sure you are doing better than you think you are. ❤️ With my first, the nurses pressured/shamed me into giving my daughter formula before my milk came in, and even then I never produced enough to solely breastfeed. I felt awful. The ability to breastfeed or not does not determine your worth as a mother. Ignore the opinions, your child is fed and that’s what matters. I think that sometimes men have a harder time adjusting to parenting because they didn’t develop the same bond with the baby that you may have while you were pregnant. My husband did the same thing and part of it was because he didn’t feel confident in what he was doing. You may not feel happy all of the time and that’s normal. Adjusting to a new normal is hard and exhausting but just keep doing what you’re doing. I promise it gets easier. If you are truly struggling and feel that you can’t keep yourself or your baby safe, please seek help.

I totally understand this Don't worry hun this won't last long. It will get better i promise you. Comfort bubs in different ways, the dummy, cuddles - especially cuddles right in your neck as they smell you and it calms them. When you try and out them down put a shirt you have warn all day with them.

Oh gosh that sounds so tough. The first year after birth really is. It does get better but I remember feeling distant from my husband and unappreciated too. First thing I would recommend is seeking medical advice for potential post natal depression. It is very common but also very damaging. I had it with my first and just felt like a terrible mum for months before I got help. Second I would recommend a lactation consultant if baby is very young and you want to explore being able to breastfeed. If you have done this already then sorry for suggesting it. I also recommend looking up Professor Amy Brown who has written a book on breastfeeding trauma and really understands the negative mental impact not being able to feed in the way you really wanted can impact your wellbeing. Third I recommend a Facebook community called "bridging the gap". It's aimed at the gender gap between men and women and supporting women with it. Not just for parents but there is a lot on the group around the gender gap in relationships

I feel for you on so many levels on your post