Attached to baby

Hi There! I have a couple thoughts for you to consider. First of all, it is completely normal to be very attached to your baby and want to be around them. The question I have for you to consider is this: why does your partner think you have postpartum anxiety or depression? If you generally have a healthy relationship with him, then he is probably a good judge of things like this and noticed a change? If you wanted to have a shower, would you feel comfortable leaving the baby with your husband? If the answer is no, (and assuming your partner is a safe person) then you might consider that there is some anxiety there. It’s normal to want to be around your baby and to miss your baby when you’re away, but if you can’t leave your baby for even 5-10 min without experiencing anxiety or negative emotion, then that might be a sign that something is off with your mental health. I don’t know if your husband is correct that you have postpartum, but I think therapy is always a good idea

Also your baby is adorable!

I honestly would be afraid of him ,why does he want to be alone with her !!!!! And tell him to educate himself on attachment theory, baby needs to be with her moma all the time at least for the first 1 year and a half /2 years .I am like you , and it's tiring but it's soooo worth it, we cosleep, contact nap , she is in her chair with me or I am carrying her either in my arms or in a baby carrier, she is tomorrow 7 months and she started to play on her own and not look for me, it happened naturally! She is now confident enough to stay on her own for about 10 minutes playing with her toys . This is all because I gave her all my time and attention in the first months of her life. She is secure enough to know her moma is near.

If you can't like can't stay away from her even when you know she doesn't need you , like she is sleeping or she she is with a safe person and not crying, and still you feel bad about being away than maybe there is anxiety, but honestly I am anxious too when I am a bit away because I know no one can tend to her better than me ! So frankly no one can tell you what you are dealing with ,you know better tell him he needs to see a therapist because he is jealous and weird ! Like what's wrong with him telling you you are sick when you are just being a loving mom!!!! What's wrong with this world!

If it’s her dad there’s nothing wrong with him feeling like he can take the work load too.. there women on here that would wish there baby’s fathers would want to spend time with their baby? I don’t think it’s weird… but if he’s trying to say there a problem where there isn’t then maybe you can discuss.. every pp journey is different.. but you should be able to be a human and have time without her.. moms are people too and not a lot of people know that.. but if your happy to spend every waking minute with her then I don’t think that’s a bad thing.. but nothing wrong with dad wanting time too.. just my opinion…

@Jihene k this is a little weird of you to say? Why is it wrong for a dad to want alone time with his daughter. I love alone time with my daughter and I know my bf loves his time with just her aswell. This doesn’t make him jealous and weird, it makes him a loving and caring dad?

@Taylor I agree, I think it’s important for Dads to bond with their babies too! He deserves one-on-one time with the baby, he should know how to care for them (bath time, diaper changes, bedtime routine, tummy time, etc) as much as possible. I hate to even suggest this but what if something was to happen to the baby’s mother where she needed to be in hospital or something? Dad deserves to feel like a part of baby’s life too, create their own special bond and feel confident in his ability to care for his own child. @incognito While I totally appreciate how you feel, I do think that you should consider some therapy if the thought of your husband taking the baby to a different room upsets you.

Good morning, I read your message and my observation is. I think some of your behaviors are from childhood. Again your partner unless certified can't diagnosed a first time mother. I have 5 children my youngest 3 months girl even when I'm mot with her I call or I'm I'm a next room I ask if she's ok. Your a mother a woman we have Intuition don't ignore it. Also becareful doing any therapy that can be used against you in the future Men could be sneaky. Love up on your child and wanting your child in view is completely normal. Again if there is anything bothering you from childhood adress it. I wish you the best

Congratulations, Mama. I guess my question is, if your husband wants to watch the baby while you're in the shower or getting ready, why not let him? Unless there's a reason he's not to be trusted alone with your baby? I think it's important to allow your partner to help out as much as possible, especially if he wants to. It's harder when your husband doesn't want to help out at all, and you have to force them to bond with their own child. I think it's important to have a healthy attachment as long as there is balance. I don't think therapy is necessary, but that is completely up to you and what you think is best for yourself. There's also nothing wrong with encouraging independence as they grow. My oldest is almost 2, and plays on her own all the time. It's not that I ignore her or tell her, "Go play by yourself." I just feel out the vibes. If she's in her own little world playing, I leave her be, but if she needs me, I'm never far away. This is just my take. Wish you guys the best.