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@Kayleigh good idea- maybe getting out for a walk every day would help
It sounds like it could be related to the post partum hormone drop. I feel like most moms go through moments where it’s just so overwhelming and that’s okay. It’s a lot of work and it’s hard and we have to take care of ourselves. Without a doubt, our babies know us. Can you get any other help so you can do some little self care things? I found when I got a chance to go run some errands by myself or even take some time in the house to do something on my own for a bit that it really helped me feel like myself again.
@Shirin I think I should start getting out, it would probably help me, thnx
I was feeling like that when mine was first born, he's 4 weeks old. But I only got to hold him for 20 mins before he was pulled away from me and brought to nicu where he stayed for 8 days. I was unable to hold him because he had a chest tube put in for his lung issues. I felt like I didn't get any bonding time with him and I feel like it ruined my bond with him. And now that we are home he spend most of the day with my boyfriend while I get stuff done around the house and taking care of the other kids. My boyfriend is on bedrest right now from having surgery so it's actually beneficial him being home and helping with the baby since he can't help with anything around the house but I just feel like I don't spend enough time with the baby now.
I had tough moments in the first months... but when he started smiling at me, gosh, suddenly everything was all worth it! The way he looks and smiles at me now is so pure and genuine... hang in there... it will get better!
@Shirin what are you doing feeding wise that allows you to get out and do stuff? I feel like I have no time for anything because if the need to feed the baby and the pump all the time.
@Alla agree- yes I feel chained to the pump- so I have to be strategic in coming and going within 3 hours, or taking that stupid pump with me
Yes! You’re definitely not alone.
You are not alone in your pain, dear. I've been feeling overwhelmed and paralyzed by my emotions and thoughts. Between lacking a support system and hormones changes
I was just feeling the same way this morning. I resented my husband for going to work and leaving me alone. I felt like I didn't want to take care of my baby anymore. My breasts were engorged and I wasn't "having fun anymore". I'm hoping it doesn't last. I felt better when I went outside and got some sunlight.