Divorce?

Are you in GA?

Definitely leave, it may be hard financially but there is help out there. Whether that be WIC or other government assistance just look into it. Don’t be somewhere that makes you unhappy. Life is too short to be unhappy.

@Kanishia qld Australia

If he’s being abusive towards you there are charities who would help and support you through this, offer legal advice etc. worth having a look into what they are in your country

@Bridget I don’t know if they’d see it as abuse or maybe I’m just being dramatic I don’t want to waste the time of charities when they could help someone being physically abused

It most definitely is abuse. Abuse is not confined to physical abuse. Abuse can have a modality of means. In your case it sounds like his abusive both emotionally and financially. In the best interest of you and your children’s own wellbeing it would be better to leave. I know it sounds harsh and maybe you may not agree but leaving with nothing is much better than misery. You can build yourself up and show your children not only bravery but resilience and perseverance against all odds. I truly wish you the best in life and that you and your children are given everything you deserve.

I think the fear of what will happen is bigger than the actual consequences we will face. I feel like, a lot of this I could have wrote. I’ve just resided to the fact I’m stuck because I actually have 0 dollars and would be in a homeless shelter, he has a house and two cars and will fight for the kids he doesn’t want to take care of while I’m here because this is my responsibility while “his responsibility lies elsewhere” which is at work as if money is the only part of what a father does. Anyways I say all that to say, if you have the family, friends, and/or even a small amount of income then get out girl! The judge is not going to take your children from you just because he has more. They most likely wouldn’t even side with him if you have 0. You are a strong capable mother and that will whole heartedly come across to the court if it comes to that. I’m rooting for you. And I have no doubt you will be happier and find true love if you go.

This is absolutely abuse. Trying to isolate you is so that you have no one to support you in getting out of it. Do get support from a charity? Do you have a trusted person who could help you and not say anything to him? Your parents? Is there someone who you could start moving a few items to that he wouldn't notice so you have some things when you move on?

I feel for you so much on a lot of your post!!

They definitely would. Abuse is abuse, it doesn’t have to be physical. Plus it is often something that escalates to physical abuse. Don’t deny yourself help! ❤️

A lot of great advice. Don’t continue to be in a situation that is unhealthy for you and your kids. Please send me a message. You’re not alone.

I wish I could just up and go. I can not afford a place on my own with five babies. I am damned if I do and damned if I do not. It kills me that I am still attempting when I do not get it back but I am used to being treated like I do not exist anyway and anywhere.

Yep..

@Emily McHenry it will be harder with 5 kids for sure but nothing is impossible stay strong 💪

I do not know how much more I can “stay” strong at this point. I am digging myself out of the grave with who I am and no matter what I do it seems the dirt keeps piling up on me.

I have been doing one step at a time. I am doing my best either way.