Partner keeps getting annoyed about me "sneaking" around the house...

Apparently, I am extremely quiet and light footed. I keep "sneaking up on him" and making him jump, and he flips out at me about it and makes me feel bad, even though I've not even tried to be quiet!! I've started trying to walk louder, fake cough when I'm approaching, talking... just so he can hear I'm coming... but I don't know when I'm going to accidentally do it. Today, I was playing with LO in his playpen in the living room. I needed the loo, so I said to LO "be back in one min," etc. I then walked through the kitchen where my partner was cooking (back turned) and into the bathroom, pulling the door to behind me. Washing machine and tumble dryer on so, that's probs why he didn't hear me. I came out, and he's behind the door about to swing at me because he thought someone had come in the backdoor. He started having a go, going on about how I sneak around, I'm too quiet, how he was going to kick the door in my face (before he knew it was me, etc). I know it's some kind of fight or flight response from him, but it's seriously pissing me off, being had a go at for just walking around normally in my own house!! I try to make some noise, but sometimes it isn't enough. We literally both work from home, and we're together 24/7, so it's not like he isn't used to me being around!!!

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Walk round with a pan and spoon and announce when your walking in room 🤣 sorry I seen the funny side of it but I would be pissed off too 🙄😬 x

That's hilarious! He needs to relax a little! Maybe take up whistling? Or smack his butt every time you walk by?

It sounds like he has PTSD pretty bad. He should figure out where that comes from. I mean it’s day time & he knows you & your child are in the house. I would worry that he could turn around & punch his kid accidentally so I would suggest he gets therapy.

Like Marie said that sounds like a trauma response to me. Definitely suggest some kind of therapy to help control his reactions. I get really jumpy and upset if people come up behind me and I haven’t heard them. My husband tries to make a conscious effort for me to be louder when he enters a room

One of my employees sneaks up on me all the time on accident too because she's really quiet. One day at work when I was pregnant I turned around and she was walking by and scared me so bad I almost pissed my pants! I always tell her I'm going to tie a bell to her so I acknowledge where she is

I agree with a couple of others, has there been any trauma? Or is he anxious about anything?

My husband has earbuds in for podcasts allll the time and then gets all annoyed when I “scare him.” So annoying. I have started flicking the light switch on and off as I enter rooms haha it works!

Walk around with a squirt gun. I'd blast him every time talking about can you see me now. Or even one of those poppers. Can you hear me now.

I got told I need bells on my shoes today because no one hears me at work! May be trauma response, I’m the opposite and can get snappy when things are too loud or stuff is thrown down/put down on the side really hard. Has he had his hearing checked too?

This definitely sounds like a type of trauma response. I have ADHD and I know when I'm cooking or in deep thought and trying to focuse on something I don't hear anything. I'm in my own head. My husband will walk into the kitchen or living room and I have almost hit him so many times 😅 He used to get upset because he was just walking around his own home and 8 would get upset because I was scared and it's embarrassing. I explained to him that I was just so focused I didn't hear him and apologized for yelling at him for sneaking up on me. Now he knocks on the wall/door or says something before he comes into the room to bring me back out of my head which I really appreciate. I now try to not swing if scared and if he does accidentally scare me we just laugh about it. He'll say the mysterious ninja strikes again 🥷🤣

Lock all the doors, tell him to get a grip and stop thinking someone breaking in. Statistically someone isn’t going to break in a home more than once a week, (well you’d hope not anyways. ) My BD used to make me jump all the time , and I started to just assume it was him 😂😂

Why he so jumpy. Fuk he hiding lol

Have a bell to walk around with and ring it every time you’re approaching

Tbh though he’s overeacting some people are light footed it’s nothing to get that upset about and make you feel bad about that’s just wierd he needs to get a grip and get over it otherwise be with someone who stomps the floor like an elephant every time they walk past lol

The above ptsd comments made sense but also I keep getting this response with my husband because I have a hearing loss in one ear and refuse to wear hearing aids lol I don’t get mad though ..

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