I’m struggling…

The 4 month sleep regression has hit and I feel so dramatic but I’m so tired. Going from sleeping through the night (7 to 7) to taking 3 hours to get to sleep and waking up every 45-60mins. He has also decided to drop 2 of his naps during the day and any nap he does have is 30 mins max. He used to have at least a 2 hour nap at some point during the day. Today I cried while getting to sleep and he was just lying there smiling at me which made me feel even worse. I’m his comfort and he needs me to fall asleep, I shouldn’t get mad at him because it’s taking so long. My partner offered to help multiple times too and I just kept denying his help. It’s his one night of the week where he gets to game with his friends and I didn’t want to ruin that. I also feel so lonely at the moment too. I don’t really have many friends and the ones I do have are out travelling or partying and none of them live remotely close to me. We’re at such different phases in life that they just don’t understand life with a baby. I sit at home all day with my baby and dogs. I get out once a day for a dog walk or to get a coffee but I feel like I’m going insane. I love my baby so much but I feel so overwhelmed at the moment. I’m assuming it’s exhaustion making me feel so awful at the moment but I don’t know how to get myself out of this depressed funk I’m in. I don’t know if I’m looking for advice or just support to be honest but that’s all I had to say

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Girl, don’t feel bad about your partner not gaming during the time that you are severely sleep deprived! Ask him for help and communicate with him clearly why you are asking! I think a lot of mums feel lonely with it all, especially if you were used to spending time with others prior to baby. Is there any mums in your area who are in the same boat? Maybe just reach out on here and see if anyone wants to meet up? And once this ‘season’ of regression is gone, you will surely feel much better!

+1 on asking your partner for help. My husband prefers that I lean on him during those times instead of overtiring myself. My baby is also going through this sleep regression. For day time naps, I either nap with the baby while side lay, or trade off on carrier naps with husband. For night time sleep, I also just keep doing mostly calm things with baby until she zonks out. I think it took 2.5 hours today.

I could have written this myself! My LO is the same during the day and night.. it’s absolutely exhausting! (Except he has never slept through the night 😂) I went to a baby group last week and they assured me that the 4 month stage is the worst. Many of the mums have 5 month olds now and said the sleep regression passed and that things are so much better. I’m holding onto this hope and for now just concentrating on the idea that LO needs me right now. Feel free to message me if you want to chat more ❤️

So this was us last week at what I'm hoping was the peak and end of sleep regression. We have now had 2 nights in a row where she has slept through 7pm- 5.30am 🙏🏻 so just keep telling yourself this will pass. As for feeling lonely and sad I think that's normal. It hits everyone at different stages. I had PND as soon as my baby was born and only really starting to come out of it in the last few weeks. Making myself get out each day has really helped like having a purpose. I'm very lucky in my area the local children centre has a free baby group each day so I always go to that just so I can talk to an adult lol then I'll either make an excuse to go to the shops or I take myself for a coffee. I've signed baby up to the local library so plan to go in once per week to get some baby books for the week. Again an opportunity to chat to people in there. I've also been using the peanut app and probably meet a new mum once per week. Believe it or not everyone is struggling in their own way Xx

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