Am I pathetic?

So I’m on maternity leave and I do 100% of baby things and household things. When my husband comes home I want to spend time with him and talk. He likes to play a certain video game (and I will play with him too) but he also plays competitively. He has to play a certain number of games every week to maintain his rank, and if he loses he still goes down in rank. He usually does all of this one night a week which is fine with me. We all need our own time alone. But when he goes down one rank, he will spend the next however many days playing nonstop until he gets his desired rank back. I mean all day all night. Basically, he played all night last night, lost his rank. Now is going to spend the weekend doing this starting tonight. It makes me sad because I just want to spend time with him. I miss him and want some human interaction. When he goes and plays nonstop like that idk what I’m supposed to do. I get bored after a while of doing stuff on my own and taking care of the baby alone. We are married after all. I don’t have any friends here yet, and have a 2 month old baby to take care of, so I’m kind of stuck at home. Idk what to do, but I’m sad and I just wish he would negotiate with me on spending more time together. It was like this before the baby too. Idk is this pathetic? I know I’m probably codependent or something. Maybe I need a life 😢 I’ve tried to communicate this with him in the past but he gets angry at me “trying to tell him what to do”. So now I just don’t say anything.

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What state are u in I’ll hang out with you I’m in Texas

This gives me potential overwatch2, valorant, or COD vibes. i haven’t played (ow2) since april last year 😩 BUT i’m get in PA if you are! i need momma friends. i feel like 2 months is too young to go outside the house quite yet.

Um Im sorry how old is your husband 17? Why exactly did he get married and have a child if he was not planning on being a family men. You need to kick his ass to the curb. Absolutely not no way in hell. I’m sorry but just reading your post makes me furious. You deserve better,

Seems like your one hell of a strong woman that's needs a much less pathetic excuse of a man. I KNOW you deserve better.

Arizona 😭

@Erin it’s league of legends haha 🤣

😂 i said watch it be LoL after I sent my message too

Being completely honest,this is how my husband was with our first child. He'd cone home from work and just play games. No helping with the house or playing with our son. In my case I tried to explain it to him, which he didn't get at the time so I told him to be a physical part of the family or I'd leave. Unfortunately at that time I had to leave for him to get the point. I wouldn't say you're pathetic, it's hard to get friends as a mom, but him being your only interaction with an adult could make it worse. I'm in ga but if you want to talk I'd be more that happy to talk with you about it.

I wish you were in NY because my husband is constantly playing LoL all of the time. You’re definitely not alone in how you’re feeling.

its apex isnt it

Girl if only I was in your state, my so plays for hours every night too but when I bring up me being exhausted from taking care of our 2mo all day every day I’m the bad guy. I take our baby out and do things to get out of the house. Grocery store run, walks in the park, I throw my baby carrier on and walk around our yard and clean up the yard. I swear we need a group for those of us who lose our time with our so to gaming 🙄 stay strong boo, you’re not alone

Nah your not pathetic at all but honestly he needs to kinda grow up. I was also a competitive gamer I did competitions for COD, tekken and I was 3rd place globally for Dying light way back when but when I got pregnant and had my baby I get to play video games maybe like for 2 hours every 4 months or so things take priority and what good is all those titles to me now?? Our son matters the most my husband plays way more than me now when I do play it's switch games because I intend these games to be the first games for my son to play

I live in Arizona, Phoenix specifically maybe we are close

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