Disappointed

I love my child’s father but I’m not even married… I’m pregnant currently in my 2nd trimester but my babydaddy who “plans” to marry me… it’s just a lot Im going through with him… he said he loves me want to marry me but.. his other child he has who I accept that are from his babymama… he is spending more time with them.. he just got out of a car accident and lost his car.. and not only that he can’t work for a while because he’s suffering injuries and it’s like okay im being there supportive but at the same time we can’t even see each other Uber there is so too expensive.. he can’t even come to my first appointment he could’ve months ago but because he started things with me I stopped arguing with him… he lives with his family saying he’s planning on getting a place just give him time… and honestly I just feel like disappearing and not talking to him its not fair that I have to keep video recording my baby’s ultrasound if he isn’t in the appointment

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You’re pregnant and probably high in emotions because of that. Try not to let this get you stressed. You’re already pregnant, disappearing right now isn’t the best thing to do! I think just focus on your child and your health! If he’s meant to be your husband, it’ll happen.

Yeah. Alot happening. Spending more time w the other kid isn't ideal. Needs to be a better dad so call him out on it but only if you have solid receipts and aren't running on pregnancy feelings. If you wanna get married then tell him and set time limits and plans that you are sure you'll follow through owise I can almost guarantee you no wedding will happen here. If he is hurt and can't work nor drive and uber is too expensive...what do you want him to do really re going to Doctor with you??? It's not the end of the world if you go to hospital alone so think about this and how you can redo the whole thing. Dissapearing won't help dear. Talk to him.

you don’t have to do the whole “he’s spending time with the other kid more than ours” look your child isn’t born yet so it’s understandable he’s with his other child in the mean time once your newborn arrives then the other child isn’t going to get much attention why aren’t y’all living together if y’all are expecting a child?? girl there is always a way, if he wanted to be at that ultrasound he can there is metro buses that’s not an excuse he can apply for unemployment or government help not an excuse

Also if you want marriage dear, if marriage is your goal, you’re going about it wrong! I promise you a man will never give you an excuse as to why he hasn’t married you yet… if he wants to!! That’s the key part. I think you need to again just focus on you and baby. When baby is here and you’re all recovered then you can think about all that marriage stuff. For now, I promise you just live life because that man ain’t thinking about marriage either!