I think my boyfriend is cheating on me…

Tell me if I’m crazy or if this seems plausible lol. I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year come this June. I’ve just introduced him to my little girl (3 y.o) and we’ve been talking more long term (places we want to live, children etc) This week we’ve spoken a total of maybe 2-3x, and those were just to check in or send a meme. And he told me how an ex of his (lives in a diff state) has been “bothering him” for money??? We usually speak everyday. Well today we were going to grab dinner around 7, but then he changed our plans and says he has to run errands for his mum and sister, so he didn’t actually get to my place until after 9. When I get in the car, he’s distracted by some news story on his phone and kisses me. And then I pull a long straight hair off of me and I’m like “wtf is this hair” but laughing because it was funny. Then he says “yeah my sister was in the car” You guys, his sisters got a pixie cut and I’ve never seen her with hair. She’s been bald since we’ve met each other. Am I missing something?

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Why would his ex be "bothering him for money " ? Do they have kids together or something ? Did he tell you what state she from ?

@Shuuggs so he used to be military and they dated maybe 4 years ago and she lives in a different state altogether. She asked to borrow money and he loaned it to her ($500 btw) and then she asked for more and he told her no. She ends up blowing up his phone and making fake numbers. It’s just weird that she’d do all of that and that he’d also be so distant at the same time. He did say she was pissing him off but idk. He has no children btw

Wtf, I’d be upset he’s out here giving this loon money in the first place, why are they even in contact? Also use that hair as an eye opener, is it a real hair or a wig hair/possibly synthetic?

That’s a bit weird, love. Definitely keep an eye out because women’s intuition is real! That hair alone is eye opening and the fact that he said it was his sister but she has short hair is weird. Why lie? Another thing is if YOU asked him to borrow 500 would he have given it to you or would he have made excuses?

@Roxy the thing that bothers me with him is he’ll act like everything is no big deal. Because ok there’s no bad blood w your ex even though your relationship was toxic and you literally packed up and left while she was at work, so why are you loaning her money? I’m trying to think about this clearly and not out of my emotions

It sounds like you are because I wouldn’t be so calm. This is hard boundary he is crossing.

@Nighya (Nya) I honestly wouldn’t even ask for it and maybe that’s what’s wrong with me to begin with. I want to say yes he would, but giving an ex a couple hundred cause she asked still just doesn’t sit right

@Roxy and now I feel like if I bring it up it’s like why are you still on it? Idk maybe I don’t trust him lol. I was turned off with how he told me he broke up with her but it was early in us talking. So for like a year to pass and now you’re lending her money?

Yeah I would start demanding more. And since she feels comfortable enough to ask and he’s willing enough to give her, so should you. If he tries to give you a hard time about demanding more and asking for things you see others do, then I would mark that down in my head. Things like that become big problems later on

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