Feel so empty

Feeling so alone and empty right now.. in February I kicked my then partner of 5 years out.. he'd become addicted to drugs and was being verbally abusive to me, putting drugs 1st, was basically ignoring me and our daughter and my son from previous relationship..I'd tried for months to help him but he just got worse.. I hoped kicking him out would give him the kick up the ass he needed.. but it made him worse.. more angry with me than ever.. I was distraught.. I've recently found out he's moved on and moved in with someone else already. Even introduced our 2 year old daughter to her and has been lying to me about where he's been taking her.. I have no trust in him now. I'm not over him. I know we weren't meant to be but I just can't get over all the hurt.. for someone who told me I was his everything, he sure did move on quick.. I tried and tried to talk to him after the split with him. After a while he said he missed me and wanted to come home and work on things but then changed his mind a few days later..
I'm not close to my family for emotional support. I have no friends at all..I'm barely holding myself together atm and am only going because of my kids. I spend my days either silent or kid/baby talk. How can I move forward.. move on.. be happy again if I have no support 😫

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So sorry your going through this lovely you are more than welcome to message me xx

If you are feeling really low mood I was speaking to a gp and you could possibly get some counselling to help you move on in your mind. Try go to toddler groups so you can speak to other mums, getting out of the house and into the community will help you not feel so alone. I'm single mum of 3 boys and they don't see their dads often as they live 4 hours apart. So I get the loneliness!
Try to remember that u did the best thing for yourself and your kids leaving the relationship. I'm sorry he moved on quickly but if he still a mess then I don't think it will be a healthy relationship and just be glad he's not your mess to sort out now.

You put your children and yourself first which is amazing. If he’s moved on so fast he obviously cannot be alone and that’s on him not you. I have no village or family and my sons dad left us 5 weeks ago no explanation just done and I will be honest I’ve been low. I have reached out to my GP and am now getting the help I need right now for my children and me to move forward. I’m a message away if you want to chat

I don't know what is going on with me.. First few weeks I was fine. But the last few weeks I've been an emotional mess.. breaking down as soon as I'm home, constantly fighting back tears..

I think you go through stages, like grief. I know I have gone through different emotions at different points

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Parenting 24/7 is harder than going to work full time?

I’m having a debate with my partner as he’s done nothing to help since. Our 14 month old was born, I’ve done it all alone all day and all night. He gets a break when he comes in from work all night I never get a break
He try’s to tell me it’s harder going to work full time 5 days a week than parenting ALONE 24/7?
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Partner is giving me the silent treatment

So I was struggling with my postpartum anxiety bad yesterday. My partner and I was out for drinks with family. He kept making jokes about treating me a bit shit.
Which no one thought was funny. I am usually quite patient about him using me as his jokes, but yesterday it hurt.

When we got home I told him it made me feel disrespected. Now he is giving me the cold fat shoulder?! What do I do ?

Divorced at 5 months PP

My husband just divorced me yesterday.

I'm 5 months post partum and I feel like complete shit. I literally can't stop crying and I don't feel like eating and this whole week my milk supply has gone down due to stress and not eating. What helps with milk supply?

The divorce- on Monday at 5am me and my husband had a small argument on text. It was regarding him not catering to my love language. I sent him a video on how women shouldn't have to ask and how laziness can kill a relationship. We've had many arguments regarding this prior about him not catering to my love language and he doesn't buy me flowers or doesn't think of me. Anyways this night, he text me saying he doesn't do Mother's Day and all that, he doesn't want to buy me flowers because my sisters buy me flowers and he can't be arsed with my moods. He said I've not been his peace and said he's done.
I replied "okay. All I want is for you to appreciate me and love me as your wife and mother of your child. I'm not pushing you away, I'm begging you to love me etc etc. I'm done too."

I come home from my errands that morning and he's upped and left. He took all of his belongings, clothes, drawer, tv- everything.

He didn't ring or text me or anything.

The property is in my name and as he left and didn't leave the key, I changed the locks the next day. I feel this is what pushed him over the edge.

He officially divorced me on Saturday.
I'm 5 months post partum and I have a 5 year old from my ex partner too.

I just want to talk about it with someone that's not biased. Was I asking for too much? I feel he just didn't want to be with me anymore and used this as an excuse? Or is that me overthinking....
Input would be nice xoxo

wtf moment?

I have been going back and forth with my husband lately. Well not lately it’s been years. He is the best husband and father you could ask for; for two weeks. Then he’s inconsistent. It drives me mad. Then he’s back to husband and dad of the year , then back to same inconsistency. I talked to him about this last night and he said “if i was lovey dovey and acted like this all the time you’d get bored and cheat on me.”

Ok so for starters i know some of you are going to say omg omg omg super controlling omg leave omg. No im not doing that. Im happy he finally admitted his wrong doing and taking accountability for it but id like to know the deeper reason, the what the f has him thinking like this reason, the personality trait reason. He’s obviously scared I’m going to leave him; so much so that he’s doing this dumb shit to prevent it. Past trauma? What do y’all think I can do to get him to see I’m not going anywhere? I’m consistent already, I married him, we have a baby. He really is the love of my life. I have never loved another man like this before.. but this shit is for the birds and he thinks he’s keeping me doing this but in actuality it’s making me lose respect and detach.

FTM

Hello,
FTM here. At what age do you stop applying cream on nappy area during nappy changes? My 2 year old boy isn’t toilet ready yet but uses both nappy pants/pull ups and regular diapers

I live in a small 2 bedroom flat. How do I keep my home smelling nice?

Especially bedroom considering dirty laundry lives in there too. I do laundry once a week because I don’t use enough to do more frequent.
But I just want my room smelling nice and cosy.

The more natural the method the better ladies 😣
I open windows everyday. I don’t get enough sunlight for plants 😭