Daughters friends Growing apart
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@Katie thank you, we have thrown around ideas of eventually going out as just mums, it's just scheduling and getting around the kids/babysitters etc... (our husbands work shifts or away at times). I get what your saying and I'm sure she tolerates them in school but I can't think of anything worse than putting up with someone at work all day that I don't like and irritated me to then be dragged in to socialising with them as well 😂 I just think I maybe need to let it run it's course or something and then be like "aww, they've drifted apart, never mind" 👀
Lol for sure! If you have a strong connection with one of the moms I'm sure you'll work it out!! Sending love!
Who does she play with now? Can you arrange a play date with new friends? Age 5 is young for her to be saying about their behaviour so I would steer clear tbh
Oh the friendship circles will change so much over the years! If she’s not keen on certain children at the moment, I wouldn’t invite them into your home so she has to spend additional time with them. But don’t forget the children are constantly growing and learning and changing and so does their friendships so they may reunite one day! X
@Stacey she says she plays with everyone... But not them 👀 my daughter is very aware of rules, especially at school whereas it doesn't seem these others are and I've witnessed them be so rude to adults 😬 if I wasn't friends with the mum's, then I wouldn't encourage it at all
You can always ask the teacher who she plays with as you want to encourage good friendships. I’ve had parents ask me before, they have then set up play dates. She sounds like a very sensible girl xx
@Caroline thank you x
@Stacey I'm not overly concerned about setting up playdates because she has hobbies where she sees other kids from her class who I know she likes, it's just how I manage avoiding play dates with the ferals when I get on with the mum's lol, it's awkward!
You can always just make excuses up, you’re busy, she’s got a club that day, husband / partner is away so you can’t make it etc. they will get the hint without you having to say anything xx
@Stacey is that kind of ghosting? 😂 Oh damn, I need to ghost? 👀😂 xx
You can still socialize with the moms and be proud that your kid is making good decisions. I would let her pick her own friends and you can also socialize with the kids moms she does pick, but if you don’t let her pick her friends she will anyways and just hide them from you
If she doesn’t want to play with them, it’s up to her. I wouldn’t arrange playdates anymore but if I have good relationship with their mums, I would arrange to meet them without children.
@Katy I don't know how to explain that to them though, we haven't got to the stage yet we socialise without the kids and I think if I start avoiding meet ups with the kids then our friendship will drift apart as well. For me to not meet up with the kids all of sudden but suggest hanging out as adults instead would be sus to them
@Amanda exactly, I don't want to encourage this friendship when she doesn't like them and I don't like a lot of the behaviour I've seen either. Sadly I think I will just have to back off, there are other mums I like who have kids my daughter gets on with so it's all good. It's just a shame and I feel awkward about it 😕
I'm assuming just moms hanging out isn't an option? Like coffee without the kids or something? If that's the case I personally wouldn't stop doing play dates. I may look at the frequency of them and tone that down. But learning to get along with others you don't like isn't necessarily a bad thing. Maybe going to public places like a park where there will be other kids to play with too so it's not one on one? Just some thoughts, hope this helps!