Am I allowed to be mad at the father of my child

So I let my son's dad have him overnight and he was giving him crisps that had a high salt intake without asking me if it was okay for him to have and then giving him marmite which also has alot of salt in it after I told him so many times he can't have salt just yet it's bad for him and then his family go against my wishes and give him the stuff I've said no too and I'm really mad about it because they barely see my son and I always keep them updated about my son they never ask and I always give him the baby friendly crisps that don't contain salt and his dad and his dads family don't listen and now I'm scared to leave my son alone with them incase they give him something he shouldn't have and I will have to take him to the hospital or doctors and have no idea what he's had because no one has told me

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Yes I’d be annoyed

@Eleanor his dad's family think it's okay because his cousins baby who's 1 has them crisps but she only drinks bottles of milk and barely eats food and they think it's okay for her so it will be okay for him and I pack everything he eats and they still gave them to him

@Lauren it’s not fair if the father isn’t listening to you about diet especially with baby being so young. It’s hard as I don’t know if there’s much you can do, but for me I say to my child’s father our son isn’t to have chocolate, crisps etc. x

@Eleanor it's hard because Ive told him so many times and this is the first time I've let him have him overnight and it's concerning because he doesn't understand and if his son gets sick he wouldn't care he would tell me to pick him up and let me deal with it and his family don't listen either when I say he can't have stuff they give it to him anyway then say I'm being crazy for getting upset about this kinda stuff xx

I get it I really do it’s going against what you have said which I think is the point. However you won’t have to go to hospital over a few crisps or bit of chocolate xx

I totally understand where you're coming from, however, if they're not listening to you then I doubt much can change their mind. I would just ensure that when they were with me that the salt intake was kept to a minimum so it wouldn't matter too much what they were fed elsewhere x

How old is little one? I honestly do understand your frustration as I’ve been there myself but there’s literally nothing you can do sweet. Dad will probably do it just to get on your nerves as that’s why he’s probably told you anyway. It’s a nightmare but you’ve just got to think of it as it’s one day & baby will be eating well every other day whilst with you. Try not to get too worked up over it x

@Vicky he's 10 months old xxx

Can you request that you guys use a book to note down what he's eaten? If he's a jerk he's likely not to use it but you could always suggest mediation if he's not gonna listen and that might stop him in his tracks x

Od be annoyed, but as long as you make sure his water intake is good, then I wouldn't worry too much , but I'd be annoyed and not appreciate the highly salted stuff in the first place, some people don't think unfortunately

My ex and his family were like this I just decided enough was enough if they’re not going to respect my boundary’s over baby and my rules they weren’t gonna see her turned into a massive screaming row (I won) and she’s one now and they haven’t done it since x