Human pacifier

My daughter is 3.5 months now. About a week ago she stopped sleeping as well. She used to sleep from about 8pm to 2am, some times 3 or 4am. Now we’re up about every hour and a half to 2 hours. I’m dying at the lack of sleep I’m getting and just overall getting frustrated. I’ve noticed she’s just using me to soothe most of the time and not even actively nursing. How do I break this habit? Also before anyone tells me to give her a binky, she will not take one. My fiancé and I have been trying to give her one for almost a month and a half now and no luck. She also won’t take a bottle of pumped milk.

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I know it’s hard but you aren’t a human pacifier. a dummy is a replacement for this biologically normal behaviour she’s doing. Her sleeping from 8am-2am at such a young age is not that common! it’s normal for babies to wake up overnight or soothe overnight on the breast. If you could co sleep and feed her in the c position you can sleep whilst she’s attached. Again i’ll say I know it’s difficult my first son woke hourly until he was a year old but it’s normal. The way our milk is made and digested they are supposed to wake regularly for it. It’s also a SIDS protective mechanism to wake regularly. Society has given us awful expectations for baby sleep and pushing us away from our nature. We’re carry mammals like kangaroos etc were meant to be with and feed our children regularly but society is making it out like we’re nest mammals like rabbits which is completely away from our biological nature and it makes parents feel like they are doing something wrong or their baby is broken

https://littlesparklers.org/infant-and-toddler-sleep/normal-infant-sleep

I hope someone comments with more info but I think at this age it can be a number of things: sleep regression, cluster feeding, teething……..hang in there 🥹

I have a high suspicion it’s the dreaded 4 month sleep regression. Her naps have been absolutely awful lately too😭

my first baby slept through the night starting at like 10 weeks old. I exclusively pumped with her though. The 4 month sleep regression also never affected her night time sleep. I guess I got “spoiled” with her😅 As far as co-sleeping, I do end up bringing her into bed with us but our bed isn’t up to Safe Sleep standard. We have a tempurpedic mattress so it’s on the squishier side. I worry that when she’s officially rolling over it will cause me more stress

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