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Oh hon. First off, you’re doing your best. Having all that responsibility on you is so tough. But you can handle it. I would suggest that you and your husband schedule me time for you. Just a couple of hours a day I find helps me to reset. Cause you can’t pour from an empty cup. So you gotta take care of yourself. He can handle the little one for a few hours while you allow yourself to be an actual person and not a provider.

Its hard but what i find helps is having a bare minimum list and a medium list and goal list. Bare minimum is like everyone eats, if they need a bath they get one, diapered, pottied, etc. This can include takeout and screentime. This does not make you a bad person! Everyone has those days! Medium list is like minimal screentime, everyone gets bathed if thats your normal, maybe only takeout or frozen processed food for 1 meal, went out for a walk, maybe went to a library circle time or grocery store Goal list to me is like cleaned more than just what i messed up while cooking like cleaning the floor or dusting as well as the medium list and maybe cook from scratch more than 1 meal and not ordering out. This helps me feel less like a failure because it’s an agreed upon list with your partner for when you didn’t get enough sleep and you aren’t ready for the day but you’re here and can’t take a day off.

I'm sure your baby doesn't hate you, toddler years are rough. Also being everything all the time is sooo hard. I had to have some hard talks and a few fights with my husband to get him to understand that being home is not me hanging out having free time all day but it also took me asking for help which I am definitely not good at. Fight for time to yourself, it's 100% necessary for any parent but especially when you have them all day long and have no time to even think about yourself

I totally understand where you are at. I told my husband (when my boys were 4 months), "I hate waking up and I hate going to sleep". It's just ongoing and it truly sucks. You are surviving, and that's all you can do. You're doing great! Message me if you wanna chat!! I'm here

Give yourself some grace as moms honestly I don’t think we will ever feel like we are doing enough 🤍 I like to set a couple manageable little goals my easy ones are washing my face in morning, drinking water, stretching for a few minutes, opening the window for fresh air.

oh man girl I hated those sleep regressions but I just rolled with the punches what helped me is using baby center for alerts about their development so I had an idea what to expect, the separation anxiety was bad with both my kids because they had it late at 2 years old my son would follow me into the restroom and cry outside banging on my room door. but i’m telling you it goes away. You HAVE to make time for yourself at least 30-1hr a day to keep your sanity as a sahm idc what anyone says you can’t constantly be giving to your child running on empty it’s kind of like you’re playing in a sport game, you need a time out to go back in okay I feel like all moms feel like what they cook their kid won’t eat or doesn’t like I cook and my daughter just grabs fruit and i m like “okay” you’ll be hungry later on or she’ll tell me she’s hungry but doesn’t want food one time my kids just put their plates in the sink with food in served them. don’t let it get to you okay

my daughter literally tells me “i don’t like that” but what does she do? she eats when she’s hungry you have to let your children know i’m not making any special requests or lessens your work load and teaches them to not be picky