Newborn and toddler

Hi Mama’s, to those who have more than one child, any advice on how to make the transition easier of having newborn in the house when you already have a toddler? I gave birth over the weekend and was discharged home yesterday afternoon, my two year old was very excited to meet her baby sister but in 24 hours that magical moment has deteriorated, she’s become very unsettled, tantrums, tears and her most recent tantrum led to her pushing over the Moses basket (luckily baby wasn’t inside) I know it’s early days but I’m trying my best to allow her to be involved (by helping get the nappies, sitting with me and baby, even holding baby herself with support of me) but when she’s told no for doing something she shouldn’t be doing or not being gentle enough with baby she will kick off which then turns hazardous. I’m really struggling now to find balance, as I’m on edge constantly to keep baby safe but also to not push away my toddler as it’s new grounds for us all. It’s a lot as I’m postpartum and can’t really move around much so today I just sat and cried after the Moses basket incident. She’s stopped listening to me and just shouts and cries. How can I help this transition become more easier for her? She’s still my little girl and I hate that she’s feeling like this and I can’t help her, I feel so guilty for bringing a new baby in the picture 💔 I wish I could sit and explain it to her but as she’s a toddler not possible

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Just went through this, nothing really helped we just had to ride it out and continue to try and encourage their relationship the more he interacted with her the better he got, he regressed a lot in those first few weeks but things are settling now, it won’t be like this forever ❤️❤️

It's hard I won't lie my toddler is 3 & my baby is 3 months she still gets jealous now but loves her baby sister too bits it took a while for her to adjust just give it time x

Lovevery has some good resources! They actually have a course pack available about helping your child with welcoming their new sibling. Comes with books that feature photos and stories of real children experiencing real emotions. The sing-a-long song can be found on Apple Music and Spotify - it’s called “I Want To Be The Baby” by Lovevery. A helpful little duet that helps them with their feelings about wanting your time and your attention. https://lovevery.com/products/the-new-sibling-course-pack

Sending all the love! Do have at least one time period in the day (even just 20 minutes while baby is napping) for just you and your toddler? I know it's exhausting. As soon as I put baby down my toddler would be in my lap. But maybe have a special time where you do something just the two of you. Even if it's just eating ice-cream together and cuddling. Again, sending all the love!

I can just say it will get better ❤️ she also did not see you for couple days, so the tantrums can be worst because of that. Try to spend some 1:1 time with her, 15min a day is enough for them ❤️ she is also in the 2 to 3 years where tantrums are their everyday life so you can't run away from that, just try to be there and give cuddles. You are doing very well and congratulations on your new baby ❤️

Does she have a dolly? Maybe get her to copy what your doing with the dolly, show her on the dolly gentle hands etc. honestly it gets better and just try and spend a bit of one to one time with her too, congrats on the new baby x

I’m 36&4 with my second also moving house next week. The change is a lot and I am dreading this happening with us too. Good luck Hun x

We went through this too with our toddler and baby. Baby is now 6 months and I'm here to say it does get better! In the early days, my toddler bit the baby and clocked him on the head with his water bottle 🫣 those were the only incidents we had and we told him all the time "baby loves you" "You're the best big brother" whenever he was calm around him. Just reinforce the positives as much as possible. Now my toddler sings to baby and strokes his head saying "gentle" 🥹

I made sure not to blame anything on the baby. If something is the baby’s I will say it’s mine. I also prioritize my toddler bc she can feel ignored and neglected but the baby can’t feel that way. That helped a ton.

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