ive been sleeping with my friends baby dad
if you are going to shame me please dont read or comment
i know this sounds so bad but here me out,
so there is this girl that goes to playgroup i say ‘goes’ she use to come when he was a baby but she has only been once in the past 5/6 months so i would say we’re friends as we speak when we see each other but we’re not close at all.
Anyway i got an add from someone a month or two ago, i recognised the name but had no idea where from so i added him back it was only a few days after talking i realised who he was, he was her baby dad.
he said he was interested and wanted to get to know me he assumed me they had been split up for a long time but i ignored him for about 2 weeks due it and avoided meeting up, anyway we did eventually have a conversation about the kids and i started to really like him.
We then started meeting each other, he would stay over, we slept together a few times, went on dates i really liked him, we did more together in a short period of time than i did with my ex of 3 years. The only problem was we couldnt tell anyone as we knew the back lash i would get from her, her friends and the other mothers from playgroup.
she then come back one week and mentioned the fact she knew he had a new girlfriend and wasnt happy about it (not sure why as she cheated on him multiple times and she had a new boyfriend at this point too) without knowing it was me she was really badly talking whoever it was off not even a little like it was BAD to the point it made me uneasy and panic and i knew i really couldnt let this get out.
me and him spoke about it and he said he wouldnt tell her but i just couldnt risk it, my son has friends at playgroup and i dont really have any friends other than the parents from there so i couldnt risk losing that and having my son lose out on play dates because of me and my decisions.
i then ended it with him which i really didnt want and i made it clear i didnt want this and he blocked me.
a week later ive found out they are back together and im terrified hes going to tell her, i know he said he wouldnt but obviously a lots changed since, ive not slept in days worrying about it getting out.
i want to message him and ask him to please keep it between us but the only thing i can message him on is facebook and if hes living back with her she’ll have his password so she’ll see it honestly i dont know what to do😩
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I'd say your options are to try to get ahead of it and tell her yourself or keep quiet and just see how it plays out.
Since you said he blocked you, it sounds like he didn't take the rejection well. I think reaching out to him again asking him to keep the secret will only push him toward telling her just to piss you off.
Right now, he probably wants to keep it a secret as much as you do if they are back together
I really doubt he’ll tell her.. she sounds like a piece of work if she cheated on him and is still giving him a hard time, so remember he’ll get grief from her if he does tell her and probably want her to find out as much as you do!
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