When should partner stop travelling
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Ultimately, it’s what you are comfortable with. Me? I wouldn’t have him go. I understand it’s a new job, but jobs can come and go! This is a brand new baby for the first time ever. I’d certainly want him there not only for support, but for him to be able to share the experience.
Personally I wouldn’t let my partner travel. My baby came at 35 + 6 weeks so you just never know when the baby will come. I wouldn’t have wanted him to miss the birth of our baby but also he’s my support and I would need him the most. It’s a moment you’ll never get back if your baby decided to come early xx
My husband works overseas most months and stopped at week 37. Baby girl came week 38 x
I went into labor and gave birth at 39 weeks exactly. I don’t think it’s a good idea for him to go. Even if you don’t give birth when he’s gone, it would be something you both would regret always if you do.
Anything after 38 weeks is go time so I wouldn't be happy with that. I had both my kids in the 41st week so I know it can happen later but you don't need the stress of worrying about giving birth alone or with someone else.
I had this too, my partner is also in the military and was due to go out on deployment 2 days after my due date. I was clear on my wishes for him to be home because the thought of him not being in the country to watch his first child be born scared me. Lucky he didn’t go because I had her 3 days after my due date!! Do whatever makes you comfortable and happy!
When do they want him to go? Could it be moved forward? I would be ok with it as long as they knew he would have to jump on a plane if I did go into labor. It doesn't really make sense to send him if he might leave midway through.
He should stop travelling from now on, baby could arrive anytime
That would be too risky for me, the chances of him missing the birth would be high and if you went into labour earlier you’d be in the first stages of having a newborn on your own and he’d be missing that. I get it’s hard with a new job but there’ll be other opportunities. He only gets to see his baby born once. My waters broke and there was mecconium so I had to be induced immediately and I was pushing about 4 hours later!
I was in a similar situation and my logic was the following: the first labour usually takes roughly 12-16 hours or more. So should I feel that the waters broke or I was having contractions, just give him a call and he can get on the next plane and will be with me in about 5 -6 hours or so. The company was willing to pay the expenses in our case.
My partner wanted to go on a solo month long trip during my 8th month of pregnancy. I told him he has to be home at least 2 weeks before my due date. Baby came exactly at 40 weeks. We got to spend the last 2 weeks before she was born together having fun and enjoying life before baby arrived. My cousin’s baby came 4 weeks early and her mom was on vacation at the time and totally missed out on her daughter giving birth. So 🤷🏻♀️
I wouldn't feel comfortable at that point for my husband to be away, especially out of the country
Not completely the same! But I was 40+1 and my partner was working 3 hrs away. Just finished his shift on his way home as I started having contractions 🫣🤣 x
Oof, no way. You could absolutely go into labour when he’s away! It’s deffo a no from me. My hubby wouldn’t even go to his Xmas party an hour away two weeks before my due date.
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He shouldn’t go. The fact that you said you’d find him being away at that time pretty stressful means he shouldn’t. Even if baby doesn’t arrive, him being home means you’ve avoided stress during pregnancy. Side note, annoying his work are pressuring him for an answer. Side side note, did he not think it was a bad idea to travel then?
Thanks all, we’ve agreed it’s a no, and easier to decide that now rather than chance it and have the stress of pulling out or rushing back. As you all say, it’s a once in a lifetime moment! Appreciate the responses, take care 🤍
My partner is in the military and was supposed to get shipped out the month I am due. I personally don’t want to take the risk and have to go through birth alone he is my back bone I need him there. After talking to his higher ups they all agreed the pregnancy and birth of his child come before any job they have him signed up for. I would just weigh the options of what if you do go into labor and he’s not there? Do you have any other support? Etc