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So my baby is now 8 weeks and he’s perfect. I have 2 Labradors and a cat aswell. However I bought both my dogs a bone last night and one my dogs steals bones off the other. I went to get my dog to put him in the kitch and because the bones were about he went for my arm first time. And I panicked told my dad to come over. He went wild Scared him to not do it again I was crying the whole time. My dad was bad when I grew up like I’ve still got trauma to today. However after all that my dad went home and my partner upstairs starts getting angry with me because of the way he goes on once he’s had a drink and now doesn’t want my baby seeing my dad. What do I do

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i don’t mean this to sound harsh but what did you expect? you’ve got trauma from how your dad is but you let him come round and essentially abuse your dog and you’d STILL want him around your child? you’re doing your child a favour if he isn’t around your dad and i think it’s normal for your partner to feel that way. as for the dogs, just lots of positive training, if he hasn’t bitten before then i wouldn’t make a big deal out of it so that it doesn’t become learnt behaviour, i would just make sure they’re separated before giving them treats x

For the dog and bone situation, sounds like a bit of resource guarding. I’d suggest giving the dogs the bones in separate places so they can’t get to each others. As for your dad I think it’s up to both you and your partner to decide that I can see why he’s worried if you say he was bad while you was growing up to where you still have trauma however just communicate to each other what your both feeling and what you both want to get to an understanding for example maybe your dad can still see baby but either one of you has to be there or both of you ect

It’s upsetting that your dad has essentially beaten up your dog with the sounds of it. I’m not sure why you rang him. I would be reporting him. I personally wouldn’t trust him around my baby either. I would say he can see the baby with someone else there and only if he hasn’t had a drink.

Also bones are the only thing that make my dog nasty. Just don’t buy them again.

That is abuse. He can be prosecuted if he has essentially beaten your dog. I know you said you panicked but Why would you call him to your house to inflict harm on your dog if you've experienced this before?

This post makes me so sad. You essentially called your dad over to come and abuse your dog. Your dog needs positive reinforcement and boundaries, not abuse that he will not ever understand

You need to work with a behaviourist on that resource guarding so your kid doesn’t end up being bitten. Also be aware it could get a lot worse now because your dad possibly just added fear into the equation so get a professional and do it soon

You basically abused your dog and think that will fix the situation? All that is going to do is make your dog more fearful, more protective and more likely to snap out of fear. I wouldn't want my child around your father either if that is what he does.