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Shes nowhere near type 4. Shes 3a/3b. U dont need to add product during the day. She has very thin hair and your just overloading it causing build up which will make it feel ick. Work out her porosity first. Hair type is irrelevant and 99% of people over type their kids hair thinking its far tighter than it is and use wrong products for it

@Sarah when you say condition every day, what are you meaning? The curling cream?

@mj, No we use wash out conditioner every other day. Then I will put in the leave in conditioner and the jojoba oil. I'm not sure yet if we will have to do the conditioner every other day for forever. We are just doing it now because we didn't for the longest and her hair got super dry. I took her to a hair dresser and she come up with this system using as minimal products as possible. We have been doing it for almost a month now and I can already see improvement! I do sorry her hair with water and use the curling cream every morning. Just a little bit. She won't sleep in a bonnet so this helps to fit the frizz of her rubbing her head on everything at night.

@Gigi LL Respectfully, I could be wrong. And her hair does need a product throughout the day because it’s so dry in the morning and knotted up, so I’ve only ever used leave-in conditioners and detangler spray. Which is why I came on here asking for advice and recommendations. It’s a learning curve for many of us so it’s more of trial and error not all products are going to work regardless if they have the same hair type or not.

@Sarah this is exactly what I do with my daughter. Girl there’s no way not to use a leave in on my daughter if I took her out with her hair the way it is in the mornings I’d get looks haha. I will definitely be trying the oil (I’ll try them to see which one works best) to lock in the moisture. Thank you so so so much for sharing your routine with me. It definitely helps and I’ve never reached out to anyone, just researched things on my own. So I appreciate you taking your time for me!

@Sarah also, thank you for sharing this picture. The way you explained your daughter’s hair is how my daughters is as well.

@Maritza No problem! It is such a learning curve. Especially since I have straight hair that needs nothing. I was the same way and did so much research and tried so many things till finally I went on the hunt for a hair dresser that understood biracial hair. It's a journey for sure 😁

@Maritza yes u do it in the morning and done. U dont keep reapplying product throughout the day. Style it if u want to keep the knots out, dont leave it down and out

A woman just made a post on here and I gave her a lot of info, so I will just post the link here so you can look and see. It is what products work and things like that https://www.peanut-app.io/share/ws4Kq6SFlJb

I would also add this hair care line, at the moment it’s not available in the UK, but it is in the states. I do agree you shouldn’t be applying product multiple times throughout the day. At most you apply when you do it, and then a light moisturizer at night. If it’s drying to the point you are doing it more than that, the products you are using are not doing their job and in the long run you are damaging her hair. Also yes I wouldn’t leave her hair out. My daughter is 3a/3b, I’m 4b, and I am learning everything as if I know nothing!! lol I would say you could wash her hair once a week but no more than that. Even a cowash may still be overload. You have to play with it. Even with similar hair textures what works for one doesn’t work for another. You would benefit adding honey to her hair products as well as aloe Vera juice.

@Chanel I’m sure you meant no harm but I will refer to my daughter as mixed— because that is what she is a mixed baby between Cuban and African American. I am not sure what you read but I didn’t say her hair was “mixed” — I said I was wanting to connect and get advice from moms with a mixed baby. There is absolutely nothing wrong with what I said nor what anyone else in my comments have said. Iykyk and the mamas in my comments know. 🫶🏼 Every hair type is complex and beautiful.

@Maritza I was not saying to not refer to your daughter as mixed. There is obviously nothing wrong with that. That last sentence “you” was to be “you’d”. As in FYI, as you go through this process…I was meaning as you go along in figuring out what to do with her hair, as it is a very common reference (“mixed hair”) as her hair type is not exclusive to mixed children.

And yes, I know. As a mom of a Black mixed child, I’d imagine you know that there is a lot of lot of nuance specifically, around hair in Black culture. That’s not to say that other hair types can’t be complex in their own ways, but that’s not what I was referring to. I stand by educating yourself about her hair type by seeing a Black hairstylist. It will help tremendously. Understanding her porosity is just as important as understanding her texture. Also, it looks like my initial comment was reported and removed, so I’ll digress bc that’s a lot to retype. I’m not arguing here, offering perspective.