Hormones making me feel lonely?

I've been feeling so incredibly lonely recently. I'm 35 weeks pregnant, have a 20 month old toddler and a full time job, and I'm married to someone I love very much. I message with friends frequently, my husband and I have been making more efforts for friend hangouts which have been fulfilling, and we have date night once a week where we make sure to spend at least that evening really connecting/spending quality time together. But somehow, I still just feel so alone sometimes. My body hurts. I'm exhausted. I have friends and family who are pregnant and understand, and I have this community where we all commiserate, but somehow it's not enough. I find myself wishing desperately for affection, or for a break, or to be pampered a little. My husband hasn't bought me flowers or given me a foot rub or genuinely complemented me in I have no idea how long, and I'm the one always giving physical affection or initiating physical intimacy. He takes care of me where it counts a lot of the time by letting me sleep in when I need it, bringing me tea, helping when I ask, etc. but somehow I feel so unloved. I feel stupid thinking this way. I wish I could shut these emotions down. But I can't and I am not sure what to do. My husband knows what I like and what I crave. We've talked about my needs before, and I try very hard to make sure his needs are met. If I'm being honest I feel like I've just gone without getting my needs met since I became a mom, and most of the time I'm fine with it, but sometimes it just hits me harder. I want to be praised. I want to be told I'm beautiful or a good mother or just something nice. I want foot rubs and back rubs without asking. I want cuddles and hugs and kisses and to feel wanted and desired. I want to be comforted and prioritized. I want a moment of true relaxation without feeling guilty about it. But I feel like it's not fair to want all this when we have so much going on. My husband is so great with our toddler, works hard at his job, and shares the workload with me at home. We make a good team. I just wish I didn't feel so lonely. And I'm so worried about how I'm going to feel when the newborn phase hits and the sleepless nights begin again. Because in those survival days especially, my needs are the very last priority for basically everyone, including myself, and I don't know how I'm going to get through it again with a toddler to boot. Sorry for the rant, just in my feelings and cant sleep I guess.

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I felt like that in the early part of my pregnancy. I was always crying. My husband is just as involved with my daughter and super supportive. I just always felt something was off. A nurse said I had signs of post partum, which I didn't know you could have before giving birth. I then look into some things that would help, and I am so happy I did! I am so much better and my husband loves that I'm back to myself (for the most part lol) I hope you know that you're not alone. Pregnancy is challenging, and sometimes we have to remind ourselves of who and what we are! You are amazing for even identifying this! I'm praying you feel God's love surround you! Try to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy doll! 💞 and give yourself some grace!

I understand how you feel. I'm in the same boat. We have a 14 month old with another on the way, I work full time, and my husband is a stay at home dad. He has been wanting a lot of space lately and plays video games for hours every day. I have told him so many times that I feel like we need more connection, affection, intimacy, etc. But my needs seem to be on the back burner at the moment. No amount of connection with other family/friends can replace what is missing in our marriage. I hope this is a phase and not our "new normal".

It's like you have written my entire life right now. If I had known I would be feeling this way. I don't think I would have gotten pregnant. I know I'm deeply loved. I just feel so by myself right now. I want my body back to me. There's so much emotions right now.

I always just try to communicate wants and needs like these to my husband directly. He is usually really grateful to not have to do the guesswork and figure out the right thing to do. Then when he does something nice I just praise and love on him a bunch and tell him how good it feels or how happy it made me. Then he is very happy to do those things again on his own. Men can be very simple and sometimes clueless. But usually good husbands love being able to make you happy. They just don't always know how to on their own.

I understand how you feel. I feel the same way. I have a 9 year old boy, a 20 month old girl and I’m 32 weeks pregnant. I also work full time. My husband is always busy with something and my weekends are always home alone with the kids. I have been stressed out because my daughter is in that difficult toddler phase where she has a lot of tantrums. I’m also working on my Master’s degree and I have felt overwhelmed with a lot of assignments. So I have felt unappreciated by my husband

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